sweet_pea Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Never at his house. Always my place or random exciting fun places, we have been adventurous that way. I coach/train at a local gym... He's come for a couple private lessons, lol. The most controversial place would be the BS car I've never been to his house though, he has a key to mine So you would never do it in their house, but you would do it in BS' car?! That's just.... wow.
mal0980 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Since the OM and I work together, our firm has a massive hotel suite that is used to entertain clients, him and I will use it during lunch, after work and sometimes on the weekends. We also have sex in each other's offices or our cars as well.
beach Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Since the OM and I work together, our firm has a massive hotel suite that is used to entertain clients, him and I will use it during lunch, after work and sometimes on the weekends. We also have sex in each other's offices or our cars as well. Careful - many work places have cameras set up that you may not be aware of.
liloldlady Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I'm curious what you get from your affair, or rather what is missing in your marriage? Do you ever consider being found out, or is that of no consequence? What is the payoff for risking a marriage you say you don't want to lose? The other woman must be worth the risk...? I have told him thank you for taking these chances to be around me, and he was gracious in receiving my appreciation. I am most welcome. And as for the original topic, he's very comfortable in my home. He finds it very peaceful, he said. I have a LOT of space for just one person, me, so, I can understand where he's coming from. I don't read between the lines in terms of what his primary household must be like, but it isn't hard to put two and two together, either. So I just do my best to create a welcoming environment for him, keep the fridge full of stuff I know he likes, keep it sexy, and along with the 20,000 other things I have to do each day, I live my life.
mal0980 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Careful - many work places have cameras set up that you may not be aware of. I thought of that, since it's my dad's law firm and I have access to the security cameras, I have the camera's turned off in my office and my lover's office.
Sub Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 I thought of that, since it's my dad's law firm and I have access to the security cameras, I have the camera's turned off in my office and my lover's office. That in itself would be suspicious, though, depending on the regularity with which you do it.
mal0980 Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 That in itself would be suspicious, though, depending on the regularity with which you do it. It's not on regular basis that we meet up in each other's offices.
ComingInHot Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 autumn moon wrote, "But I don't feel particularly guilty about it.. The affair in general but not that it's been in our homes." I don't get it. help.?. you don't feel guilty about cheating on Your Husband and kids? Or you don't feel guilty about having Sex and swapping "all that" on the Marital Bed that You have Sex and swapping with, with Your Husband? I HAVE GOT to be reading this wrong... i hope.
Author AutumnMoon Posted November 4, 2013 Author Posted November 4, 2013 autumn moon wrote, "But I don't feel particularly guilty about it.. The affair in general but not that it's been in our homes." I don't get it. help.?. you don't feel guilty about cheating on Your Husband and kids? Or you don't feel guilty about having Sex and swapping "all that" on the Marital Bed that You have Sex and swapping with, with Your Husband? I HAVE GOT to be reading this wrong... i hope. That post was specifically about the marital home and bed. Yes, I've felt guilty about that actual affair, and the the lying but didn't feel particularity guilty about the situations in our homes when they were happening.
Sub Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 It's not on regular basis that we meet up in each other's offices. I obviously don't know your situation very well, but if you're using a company suite on a fairly regular basis("during lunch, after work and sometimes on the weekends"), your offices and your cars, I'd be willing to bet someone has a clue as to what's going on. I'd also bet it's on the hush because of who you are in relation to "the boss", for fear of repercussions.
Sub Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 Probably just adds more to the excitement/drama of the affair for the OP and the MM involved, if I had to guess. I dunno, just highly doubt these are the "salt of the earth" types, that we are dealing with here. LA and all... Could be. Also could be that accountability wasn't something that was instilled in the person at some point in their lives.
liloldlady Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 9 times out of 10 the other women is promptly flung under the bus (like last week's leftovers out to trash) Guess I'm in the 1 percentile as he said he gave me a second chance and does not know why. Indeed, I threw him under the bus, but he forgave me.
skylarblue Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 We have had sex in my home, and his home.. If we were ever exposed yes this would be horrible for our spouses to learn of but I think the risk of us being found out is very small if we stay on this path.. I've seen people here.. Who are in affairs themselves, come across as disgusted and horrified about sex in the marital home or bed. Where exactly were you meeting? I guess if one of you is single and there are no kids between you that might be easier.. Honestly, anywhere and everywhere EXCEPT a hotel/motel. xMM thought the risk of someone he knew seeing him and reporting it back to his W was too great of a risk no matter how far out of the way it was. I always found it odd that he would take much more serious risks than that though like bringing me into his home or having sex with me parked in his driveway while his W slept inside or even in his front yard. Other than hotels, no place was off limits. Our houses, our jobs, friend's house, parks, movies, parking lots, backstreets, behind buildings, out-of-the-way/hidden spots...anywhere that he (as he made those decisions) felt was convenient enough or exciting. I didn't have any objections (although reservations at times) other than on 2 occasions when I really felt he would've been putting himself in serious jeopardy.
liloldlady Posted November 4, 2013 Posted November 4, 2013 And yet, he's still with his wife correct? Not married. And you are still a secret? I've told a couple of crucial people. Not doing that again, though! And Im curious how a OW can throw a man under the bus? By putting his business on front street. Our business. You are married yourself? No! No way.
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