WhiteButton Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 (edited) Sup guys, I have been seeing this girl that I like. I am 30 and she is 25. We went on 2 dates so far and both of them went well. Lots of chemistry and things seem to go well so far. We went to our first date and I ended up asking her on second fallowing week. I ended up getting the “I am busy this week but hopefully we can reschedule”. I told her no big deal and that I was going to Europe for vacation week after for few weeks and we could set something up when I come back. We stayed in contact while I was in Europe and when I came back and we set up a second date which was last week – lots of laughing , talking etc no dull moment in 2 hours that we hung out. Fast forward to this week and I asked her to see how her week looks like and wanted to take her out to dinner. I got the “ I’d definitely like to go get dinner but this week is a little crazy for me ” I responded no worries we can hang out next week if that works better for you. Our communication has been great, she responds to all my texts within an hour and she asks me questions too its not a one way conversation. I am just puzzled by how busy she is, I mean at the end of the day if you are interested in someone you will find the time to meet them. I will ask her again later this week to set something up for next week. However I do not think that I will be able to accept another excuse. At the end of the day I don’t think I am asking is too much for few hours a week. What is your thought on this guys? Thanks WhiteButton Edited October 9, 2013 by WhiteButton
Blastoplast Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Well, from personal experience I'm currently dating a girl whom is very busy, but I am as well. But when we suggest hanging out or going on a date we find time to make it happen, we also live an hour apart. Either this girl of yours isn't too interested, or maybe she values her personal time and just wants to take it slow. Bottom line from me, the early dating phase is so touchy and full of games that it can be hard to guage what they're thinking, no matter how much you think you know. I would maybe keep a little distance for a while and try again I a week
kassy Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 My boyfriend nearly ruined everything at the beginning by being the most unavailable man on earth. I assumed if he liked me he would see me. It turns out he really was just that busy. I ended things after 3 dates and we met up again a few months later when his life was more normal and have been dating ever since happily. For all of that I think cutting him lose and telling him he was welcome to get in touch if he ever sorted his life out was the best thing to do. I assumed I would never hear from him again and got on with my life. Dated a few other guys. I think at the end of the day don't assume they don't like you. And if you feel like it leave the door open for them to come back later. But it doesn't matter why they are unavailable. It is simply the fact that they are which is the reason to move on. Try one more time but then if this happens again go find someone cool who is actually available.
Blastoplast Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 And kassy makes some good points too, she honestly could be very busy. Some people find it a little overwhelming having to balance their personal and professional lives.
soccerrprp Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I agree with others. She is likely very busy. She responds to your texts, so she's still interested, no? But, if she is not meeting your needs for more face time, you should thank her and tell her you'd like to talk or get together again when she has more time as others have suggested. Good luck.
Author WhiteButton Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 Yeah she does respond to my texts and everything is cool when we communicate. I will check in with her and ask hear out at the end of week and see how it goes from there. Thank you for the advice guys.
deathandtaxes Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Sometimes people get really busy in short stretches. It happens. And some people don't want to plan two things in one day. I get busy that way. And I may have a week of nothing going on. Then the next I am full up. Timing is a fickle woman. Be patient. Do stuff. Hang with friends.
Author WhiteButton Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 Sometimes people get really busy in short stretches. It happens. And some people don't want to plan two things in one day. I get busy that way. And I may have a week of nothing going on. Then the next I am full up. Timing is a fickle woman. Be patient. Do stuff. Hang with friends. Yeah i hear you, i am by no means someone that just sits home. I have a lot of responsibility in my day to day job, i play sports, hang out at bars on weekends, play gigs (play guitar in a band) etc. I have a lot of things going on in my week but between everything i can always find time to fit a girl in my schedule. Having said that i also understand some people can plan better then others no big deal. If she is busy its no big deal i can understand that, we can go out next week. However if she gives me an excuse two weeks in a row i cant see you, it would really put me of. I mean, I am asking for 2 hours out of your week.
deathandtaxes Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 However if she gives me an excuse two weeks in a row i cant see you, it would really put me of. I mean, I am asking for 2 hours out of your week. Yeah buddy. If she does that two weeks in a row, then she's just not that interested. Means she's not willing to make you a priority or even make dating a priority.
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