Ladies of LS: what do these measurements mean?

[ComingInHot]

fooloftheyear, oOOOoohhhhhh, gotcha. I think I'd have to agree w/you, but maybe cause I'm "older" and the whole game thing isn't as exciting as it once was.

 

(Not to mention, I'm an inch lower for each of my two children!* lol) but still rock in for my age.

[spiderowl]

Please read the thread before you judge me, I did ask for a full body current photo, and she understood why and has sent me a few, actually many.

 

What kind of guy is on the other end? Really? It's nit picking, obsessed to ask what you look like...really? (just a head to toe front pic for me is normal, I am not asking for butt shots, nudes, bikinis, or anything close to that).

 

Read my comments here, I am not looking for the perfect girl (no such thing BTW). I am looking for a woman I am attracted to, the entire package, I could care less if she is perfect or if anyone else is attracted to her.

 

How is this obsession? If I meet someone in person, do I just get to see only their face? No, I see ALL of them, and decide if I am attracted to ALL of them, body, mind, personality, intelligence, spirit, etc.

 

You can judge me all you want, I have to be attracted to my life partner, period, and not just physically, all of her. If you can meet a man based on a 10 year old face photo alone, who lives 3+ hours away, good for you; but don't judge me for being different, or call me obsessed. I have had too many bad experiences with OLD to NOT ask for a full body photo now.

 

And, personally, I would never meet you if you were afraid to share what you look like to me, shows a major insecurity to me, or body image issues...just sayin'. It does not show what kind of person I am, as I am not afraid to share this with someone. I am not being cocky at all; I simply think it's fair. I woman may like my face, see my full body and the "meh, not interested". I'd rather hear that now then invest the time and energy into getting to know them and meet them.

 

I met a woman once who told me I was too thin, that she liked beefier men, within 10 minutes. I had no issues with that, said thank you, nice to meet you, and left. So now, there are multiple full body, current, pics of me on my profile.

 

I really wish you men bashers, the Babolat haters, would leave this post and go bash some other men, on another post.

 

I'm sorry you've had bad experiences. No-one should mislead anyone online though lots do. If you want to see a woman's body before even considering her, then maybe online is not for you.

 

Point is, you are not meeting her in person at this point, only online. If she wants to send you a picture, that's up to her. You may well be missing out on some nice women though. Guys who are concerned about seeing a fully body picture are just a headache. They are the ones with insecurities. If a woman is looking for a genuine relationship with a guy who likes her as a person (and vice versa), there is no point bothering with the 'must-have-a-full-picture' guy. He has other priorities.

 

Women can pick and choose just as much as men, you know. Given a choice between the guy who is happy to meet and see how we get on in person and the guy who is focused on getting a full-body photo upfront, I know who I'd choose.

[bumpyroad]

Her going on about her measurements just screams insecurity to me.

 

Also, what have measurements got to do with anything when you haven't even met; if you don't even know if there's chemistry yet.

 

Plus, if she's had a boob job, they're phony measurements anyway.

Edited October 12, 2013 by bumpyroad
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[ComingInHot]

bumpy, I believe babolat requested a description of her and she gave it to him via measurements and pics. He came here for clarification of what those measurements were*

As for screaming "insecure", we all have our own haunts, she chose to address hers in by way of cosmetic surgery.

I honestly don't see a big problem w/that IF it has indeed addressed the issue

[bumpyroad]

bumpy, I believe babolat requested a description of her and she gave it to him via measurements and pics. He came here for clarification of what those measurements were*

As for screaming "insecure", we all have our own haunts, she chose to address hers in by way of cosmetic surgery.

I honestly don't see a big problem w/that IF it has indeed addressed the issue

 

There's nothing wrong with it - I'd have a nose job if I could afford it. Not to get a man but because I don't like my conk.

 

It just seems peculiar to me for him to put so much focus on her measurements, and for her to make it such a big deal about it before they've even met each other.

 

Just seems insecure, lame and kinda weird, just sayin'.

Edited October 12, 2013 by bumpyroad
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[ComingInHot]

bumpy, totally hear what you're writing.

It's hard to say as we aren't a part or there to read every word.

 

Kind of scares the $#*& out of me to consider dating one day again... blech

[Babolat]

This was a rare and isolated case for me on OLD, and for her too for that matter, and for both of us we agreed it was because of the distance. I was not obsessed with her measurment, not at all, and I never asked for them or even commented on them once volunteered. I simply asked for a full body/head to toe pic, which I would do again under these circumstances. If that puts me into a certain bucket for some of the posters here, so be it. I know who I am and I feel very comfortable with myself for asking.

 

If she was local I would have met her after a few messages without asking for a head to toe pic. She is 4+ hours away, and for that reason we spent a lot of time messaging, texting and a few phone calls. She even said yesterday that she liked the amount of time we spent getting to know each other before we met, covering a lot of bases if you will. In person she said it felt like we had already been on a few dates.

 

I did meet her yesterday, 1/2 way between our towns.

[Babolat]

I'm sorry you've had bad experiences. No-one should mislead anyone online though lots do. If you want to see a woman's body before even considering her, then maybe online is not for you.

 

Point is, you are not meeting her in person at this point, only online. If she wants to send you a picture, that's up to her. You may well be missing out on some nice women though. Guys who are concerned about seeing a fully body picture are just a headache. They are the ones with insecurities. If a woman is looking for a genuine relationship with a guy who likes her as a person (and vice versa), there is no point bothering with the 'must-have-a-full-picture' guy. He has other priorities.

 

Women can pick and choose just as much as men, you know. Given a choice between the guy who is happy to meet and see how we get on in person and the guy who is focused on getting a full-body photo upfront, I know who I'd choose.

 

I understand your point. I am not insecure with myself nor did I have other priorities with this woman. I have plenty of those options locally.

 

Point is, I did have plans to meet her in person prior to this post.

 

And I was not focused on a full body shot as you state. We spent a lot of time "chatting" and talking prior to me asking. And I liked her. For me, it was a next step, as it says in my post here from the OLD site.

 

If I understand you correctly, looks do not matter at all, and a man who does care about looks is insecure and has other priorities. That is your choice, I chose differently. I have to be attracted to a woman; period. Just because a woman has a pretty face, does not mean I am attracted to all of her.

 

And you may be right, OLD may not be for me, I am trying it a 2nd time with no expectations. I met my ex gf online, we had a great connection, dated for 12 months, other issues got in the way of a permanent LTR.

[Babolat]

Just seems like far too much work and BS....I would get bored by this point, quite frankly..

 

TFY

 

I do not disagree, under normal circumstances. Meaning, we live closer to each other.

 

This was a big investment (if that is the best word) for both of us given the distance between us.

[MidwestUSA]

Yup.

 

Sounds just like a catfish to me. Why would anyone want to divulge such personal matters to someone who lives so far away? What's the point?

I'm gathering he met her this weekend. Waiting for an update!

[Babolat]

I'm gathering he met her this weekend. Waiting for an update!

You gathered correctly, and I am being quiet, out of respect for keeping to the thread Subject!

 

There were no surprises, it was not catfish.

[William]

Thread starter, feel free to begin another thread on your meeting/subsequent interaction, should you so desire. As the issues raised in this thread have been resolved, I'll close it up.