Ladies of LS: what do these measurements mean?

[Babolat]

Are you really so obsessed by the minutiae of a woman's figure? Why don't you ask her for a full-length body photo so that she can decide whether to bother sending you one or not? Personally, I never would, because I know what kind of guy would be on the other end - someone who is more obsessed with nit-picking the perfect girl, not my type at all.

 

Please read the thread before you judge me, I did ask for a full body current photo, and she understood why and has sent me a few, actually many.

 

What kind of guy is on the other end? Really? It's nit picking, obsessed to ask what you look like...really? (just a head to toe front pic for me is normal, I am not asking for butt shots, nudes, bikinis, or anything close to that).

 

Read my comments here, I am not looking for the perfect girl (no such thing BTW). I am looking for a woman I am attracted to, the entire package, I could care less if she is perfect or if anyone else is attracted to her.

 

How is this obsession? If I meet someone in person, do I just get to see only their face? No, I see ALL of them, and decide if I am attracted to ALL of them, body, mind, personality, intelligence, spirit, etc.

 

You can judge me all you want, I have to be attracted to my life partner, period, and not just physically, all of her. If you can meet a man based on a 10 year old face photo alone, who lives 3+ hours away, good for you; but don't judge me for being different, or call me obsessed. I have had too many bad experiences with OLD to NOT ask for a full body photo now.

 

And, personally, I would never meet you if you were afraid to share what you look like to me, shows a major insecurity to me, or body image issues...just sayin'. It does not show what kind of person I am, as I am not afraid to share this with someone. I am not being cocky at all; I simply think it's fair. I woman may like my face, see my full body and the "meh, not interested". I'd rather hear that now then invest the time and energy into getting to know them and meet them.

 

I met a woman once who told me I was too thin, that she liked beefier men, within 10 minutes. I had no issues with that, said thank you, nice to meet you, and left. So now, there are multiple full body, current, pics of me on my profile.

 

I really wish you men bashers, the Babolat haters, would leave this post and go bash some other men, on another post.

[Babolat]

Alright, I admit it. I'm impressed w/the pics.

You're not hard on the eyes.

 

Now about that personality of yours... ha! Kidding again*

 

Good luck w/the Skype date tonight.

 

Oh, and just be yourself!

 

No Skype date planned. I am gonna make the trip, and just go with it. She lives in a big city, we plan to see a NFL football game and she wants to show me around the city. Worst case she becomes a great friend, as I am crazy about her personality, her charm, her humor, her intelligence, her active/fitness lifestyle, she is spontaneous with her texts, cute even. Her body, in photos, is amazing, like WOW!

 

What also makes this awkward is "how long do I plan to stay". This will not be a normal get to know you date. At a minimum I plan to stay the night in a hotel. What if it's awkward when we meet, no chemistry? I am not looking for an answer, just sharing thoughts.

[William]

Folks, let's move the discussion back to soliciting feedback from the ladies of LS regarding what the measurements in an OLD profile mean. If members wish to gaze upon the thread starters image, send those requests via PM. Some editing was performed. Thanks.

Edited October 10, 2013 by William

[Els]

It's MUCH more important to Skype (with cam) prior to paying a hefty plane ticket to fly to her, than to figure out her measurements prior to paying a hefty plane ticket to fly to her. Skype at the very least ensures that the photos, numbers, etc - everything that she is saying to you - are not bogus, and you get a rough feel for how they talk and act like in person. You would be surprised how many people get fooled that way.

[Babolat]

It's MUCH more important to Skype (with cam) prior to paying a hefty plane ticket to fly to her, than to figure out her measurements prior to paying a hefty plane ticket to fly to her. Skype at the very least ensures that the photos, numbers, etc - everything that she is saying to you - are not bogus, and you get a rough feel for how they talk and act like in person. You would be surprised how many people get fooled that way.

I don't disagree. Just not sure if I want to do that, as I could see her differently then she really is, body, mind and spirit.

 

The travel money is not an issue/concern for me. I have not even considered that. I see it as an adventure to a city I have never visited, hopefully with a woman I connect with in-person and am as attracted to in person as I am to her pics.

 

Ironically, my FWB came over last night, she had a hoodie on as it was raining, I told her I liked it, also told her I liked her shirt. She said something like "It's difficult being a woman and buying clothes as the sizes vary by the manufacturer, the style, etc, and it's a real pain". She asked me what my shirt and pant sizes were, pretty straight and easy answer for me. She then volunteered she is a size 6 most of the time. I think she is thin and very well built (great hips, small waist, flat sexy stomach, great legs, etc). She is 5'5"ish I think.

 

So, I am learning size (clothes that is!) really does not indicate much of anything for a womans "shape", since they vary so much.

[ComingInHot]

First of all , Sorry William. Just joking w/the pic thing*

 

Babalot, More importantly, my bad about not understanding you were already planning a flight out to meet her. Totally missed that.

 

And So What if she "misses the mark" on your physically attractive scale?! I see it as a GREAT opportunity to see a new place and make a new friend. What's to lose in that?! Not a darn thing!! So go and have a wonderful time. Measurements be damned (w/in reason*)

 

You've already written about the diversity w/which you have dated/M'd other women, so I honestly don't see you as shallow, just someone looking for Then meeting a potential partner/mate. Someone who is healthy and health conscious * good for you!

 

Now, the MOST important thing..... does she play??!

[Babolat]

Now, the MOST important thing..... does she play??!

 

She did not know what my login name "Babolat" meant, so unfortunately, no, she does not play, like you do!. But, she has other admirable qualities, so no worries!

 

She just texted me a cute list of her "flaws" (not physical) and has me laughing again.

 

And, I could miss her mark too, right?

 

On a side note, I did have a player contact me from the same area as this woman, a 3.5, no face pics, all body, a very nice body, and she is married, but "Available". I replied stating I was more interested in the 3.5 than anything else. She did not reply back! Go figure.

[Phantom888]

If you are into casual dating and sex, there is no problem being so focused on looks. Bigger and curvier girls are my preferences. I cannot stand fake boobs... Have to be natural and large. I am happy with my woman's 38G cups. Perfect for me. Some people may think she is a bit chubby, but she really is quite proportional. If you are afraid of size 10+, then you are totally missing out!

[ComingInHot]

AAHHAHAhahaha!!!! Good for you!

 

I think you've got your head on straight, so have fun!!

 

When does this "meet" take place so we can ask all about it upon your return?

 

Ya now everyone? I don't think I've actually met anyone who's measurements were that!

 

Go Ginger! Go Ginger!

[FitChick]

It would be funny if, after all this worry, she rejected him based on HIS looks.

[Babolat]

It would be funny if, after all this worry, she rejected him based on HIS looks.

 

And I would have no issue with that.

[Babolat]

For the record, here is the conversation about a head to toe pic, copied from the OLD site (judge all you want):

 

Me:

 

"So, a big next step for me, and I feel awkward asking for this, is a current head to toe pic. I am VERY attracted to you, ALL of you, I look at your photos often and think "Wow!". However, I can't get a feel for the rest of "you", if that makes sense. I am happy to return the favor, clothes on of course! ;-) With the distance between us, I guess I want to make sure the attraction is as strong as it feels already. If we were closer I would have met you already (assuming you were interested). I have only met one woman in 3+ weeks on here, and, well, the physical attraction just was not there, and neither was the personal/emotional attraction.

 

Her Reply:

 

"I can't tell you how many times I've seen shirtless photos of men on their profile. Do they look great? Yes, most of the time. Do I want to get to know them better? No, not at all. Why? For the exact reason you mention about women who show too much skin. I feel that those men are portraying their best asset...their body.

 

I also skip the guys who have one photo of themselves (usually taken from quite a distance) and then the rest of their photos are of: a house, a car, a boat, a plane, a golf course, a beach, etc. Just as you said, I want to see the person, not the possessions and not where they have traveled. Show me who YOU are and we can talk about the rest...those are our life experiences so lets discuss them, but what is going to interest me is you and you alone.

 

Thanks for the compliments about my pictures. I am blushing to the nth degree now :-) My pictures span a 3 year period. My current profile pic (orange shirt) was taken in April 2010. The one of me wearing a white denim jacket and a turquoise top was taken a week and a half ago. I've been told I look better in person than in my pictures, but I think I look the same. I thank my parents for providing me with great genes :-)

 

"I know how important physical attraction is to you. It's important to me also, but I don't think pictures can hold a candle to seeing someone in person. I have no problem sending you a head to toe picture of myself, but I don't want to put it on this site. Is there a way I can email or text some to you. (I just went into the ladies room here at work and took a few pics standing in front of a full-length mirror). I asked my friend to take some and they were just awful. I know I am a shutter bug and maybe a little better than the average person at taking pics, but my friends can't take good pictures to save their lives! I believe I am attractive and I am very happy with my figure. Am I skinny? No, not by a long shot. I have curves and I love them. I am a 34-D chest , 27 inch waist and 36 inch hips. I always felt that my chest was so out of proportion for my Latin hips, so I decided to have breast augmentation and I think I am much more proportioned now. I feel "balanced "

 

And after this message she added captions to all of her profile pics, with dates when the pics where taking. And she added 3 current ones, including a head to toe, and thanked me for asking her as she had not thought about it.

Edited October 11, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Babolat]

Oh, and last night she asked if we could meet this coming Sunday, 1/2 way, and not wait until next weekend, which is when we were planning to meet (me going to her town). If there is a connection we will continue with our plans to meet next weekend.

[ComingInHot]

Babalot's new friend wrote, "You are only the 5th person on Earth to know that I had surgery. It's not something I talk about. My best friend doesn't even know."

 

 

...not any more... LOL*

[GorillaTheater]

Babalot's new friend wrote, "You are only the 5th person on Earth to know that I had surgery. It's not something I talk about. My best friend doesn't even know."

 

 

...not any more... LOL*

 

1411 of us on this site right now. Send her all of our best wishes.

[MidwestUSA]

1411 of us on this site right now. Send her all of our best wishes.

 

Good luck, Bab! What is the distance? Are we talking train, plane, auto? Be safe.

[Babolat]

I thought about "this site" before posting that. I feel very confident nobody can connect my post about her, else I would not have posted it. I wanted to show "her words" and "mine" so some of the folks on here might get me better. Though, I am now feeling like crap regarding the augmentation part, like I should not have put that here. I was not even paying attention to that, more the "messages" and the "context".

 

She is exactly 4 hours and 7 minutes from me, per Google Maps. She use to live near me, and she states it's under 4 hours.

Edited October 11, 2013 by Babolat

[Babolat]

Babalot's new friend wrote, "You are only the 5th person on Earth to know that I had surgery. It's not something I talk about. My best friend doesn't even know."

 

 

...not any more... LOL*

 

Alerted the moderators, that part has been removed, thanks!

[FitChick]

I find it creepy that she even mentioned breast implants. Should women say they have hair extensions, botox, facelift, capped teeth? Should a man mention he had been impotent until he got a penile implant or he had hair transplants?

 

Too much information too early on. You reveal that stuff when you are naked (or about to be).

[Phantom888]

Be sure to research a nice hotel half way. If chemistry is good, be sure to have good sex!!!!!!!! Don't wear a condom because you won't be able to tell if she had vaginal rejuvenation. Make sure she has a real vagina. That's important.

[ComingInHot]

babalot, again, I was just kidding. I don't think anyone here could "know" or find anyone just from posting here.

Heck, most times I find things by Accident, Not because I have one inkling of how technology works.

Just looking at a gaming thing with all the buttons gives me vertigo.

 

But, it's always better to play it safe, so anyway, if offended, I'm sorry. It just kind of struck me as ironic.

[ComingInHot]

You know, I was thinking (scaaaarrrrry)), I think it was pretty decent of B's new friend to be up front about her size, implants etc...

It allows B to decide ahead of time if he's okay w/certain things that some may not. I've been told many people on dating sites are not "upfront" w/things both physical & mental and it throws a wrench in the whole process/point of meeting like minded individuals*

[thefooloftheyear]

Just seems like far too much work and BS....I would get bored by this point, quite frankly..

 

TFY

[ComingInHot]

bored w/what?

[thefooloftheyear]

bored w/what?

 

All the "back and forth"...

 

If I saw what I liked, "in general" ...I would just go out with her....So effin what if her ass wasnt absolute perfection. All this vetting and back and forth, Who cares if you waste a day and arent compatible?? Even if you find compatibility in the appearance, she could turn out to be a nut when you meet her anyway, so all of that would be a waste..

 

Just seems like a lot of micromanaging....and not just on the OP's part.

 

That would wear me out...

 

TFY