Zahara Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 (edited) Im very well aware of this, and im still wondering where these things come from? Im trying too look deep within myself to rid myself of the dark things that still exist. Im trying to rewire myself into a nice guy. I think its about me getting very angry when i feelt i been treated in a wrong way. and im easly angry when someone looks down on me or dont like me, or when i get a rejection. Im still thinking about it, and dont know how to change these thoiught patterns....someone good with psychology? I feel bad that you are struggling with your issues. While you behaved badly in this instance, it's a good thing that you are able to self-reflect and realize your shortcomings and flaws. You sound narcissistic. Especially the part about having to mimic in order to be someone else and your rage. I think you should seek physchological help. You are able to afford it and I think it could be effective for you since you are aware that something is wrong and you want to change. Wanting change is key. Edited October 9, 2013 by Zahara
Author hardlover Posted October 13, 2013 Author Posted October 13, 2013 (edited) I feel bad that you are struggling with your issues. While you behaved badly in this instance, it's a good thing that you are able to self-reflect and realize your shortcomings and flaws. You sound narcissistic. Especially the part about having to mimic in order to be someone else and your rage. I think you should seek physchological help. You are able to afford it and I think it could be effective for you since you are aware that something is wrong and you want to change. Wanting change is key. Yeah narcisssm sound right. I think i should just stop using alcohol. Remember, she was really into me after the first date. She know i was drunk the second date were i screwed everything up. Sent this on friday to her(had been drinking), no answer yet though: Ive been dating for several years ivnt met anyone that i conneced as good as you. Ive a hard time getting over this, im so ****ing angry with myself, you should really know that. I-ve been in relationship for 5 years, and never done anything like this. I know that you say what you think and really feel while drunk and yes its true, ive threatened one or two security guards at bars while drunk, when i feel ivnt been treated with justice.. I have to work on this, yes i have to. I promise you, i can stop drinking for your sake. I will really do that. Im on x street now, ive been to a party that my company held. Do you want to meet up with me? I was so happy the first time we met, and the second time, everything went so fast, and then i had screwed everything up, even though i didnt mean anything. I sent this 9pm friday, havnt got any answers yet. Now i have deleted her number, and cant send her anymore messages. My friends who know the whole story, say i should just move on, and that i shouldnt expect anything. They say that it is about 10% chance that she will contact me. One friend says if she will contact you, its within one week, whereas the other friend say that if se contacts me, it will be after some time.. Edited October 13, 2013 by hardlover
ConstantVoyager Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 She will not contact you. Give this up. Move on. Work on yourself.
NJtoDC Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 She would be foolish to contact you again. It would be foolish of you to contact her again. I know you said you are done, but you said that before and contacted her again. If you do contact her again do not be surprised if she tries to take legal action to stop your contact. You two just met, had one good date, and one clusterf*ck of a date. You threatened her in writing. She asked you not to contact her again. You did anyway. She may well have all she needs to press charges and/or get a temporary restraining order. Then you could get to see her again, but in court. Leave her be.
Atem Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 I met a girl from a dating site. We had a good first date, and she followed me home and slept over. We never slept,but cuddled all night(no sex). She sent me a message, next day telling me she had a fantastic evening and wanted to see me again. We wrote to each other every day, and we finally met again, and she came to my place. I was however drunk when she come. So she wanted to leave. when she left, i sent her like 7 messages, where i threatened here, like i know where you live, and im going to make revenge etc(i was really really drunk). Next day i sent a very well written message where i apologised. She sent me back that she doesnt want to have any contact with me again whatsoever. you sent messages where you threatened me. Dont contact me in anyway in the future. I wrote back: i understand. I cant do anything about that. Thanks for letting me now. i will drop this. i blocked her on the dating website, and she loggined in quite shortly thereafter(ive another account so i can see that). Since that, she hasnt been logging in for one week now, even though she usually loggined in like once a day. Im just wondering, are my chances completely zero with her? Will she maybe change her mind and contact me again? Im not going to contact her again, but i hope she does... YES to two things: 1. you definitely lost her 2. you're an idiot But - in case this really was a 1-time slip up: why the hell didn't you cancel the date since you were planning on getting hammered OR why did you not postpone getting hammered? Also, who gets drunk on 700ml vodka by himself besides a very troubled mother****er? For your sake, I hope you're a troll...
Atem Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 YES to two things: 1. you definitely lost her 2. you're an idiot But - in case this really was a 1-time slip up: why the hell didn't you cancel the date since you were planning on getting hammered OR why did you not postpone getting hammered? Also, who gets drunk on 700ml vodka by himself besides a very troubled mother****er? For your sake, I hope you're a troll... Btw - I just read all of your other posts about you being a 10/10, making $10k+ a month, messaging the girl again this past Friday and all that other BS that you're feeding these people on here. Definitely a troll - one that's full'a **** to be exact. In the 1% chance that this is real - go check yourself into a mental health institution for a while. Do society and yourself a favor.
Author hardlover Posted October 13, 2013 Author Posted October 13, 2013 Btw - I just read all of your other posts about you being a 10/10, making $10k+ a month, messaging the girl again this past Friday and all that other BS that you're feeding these people on here. Definitely a troll - one that's full'a **** to be exact. In the 1% chance that this is real - go check yourself into a mental health institution for a while. Do society and yourself a favor. you seem upset. Think about why do that, the real reason behind it. And yeah, my friend who is a medical doctor in psychiatry, thinks ive got bipolar, and that there is good help for that. He just told me that today, and its a childhood friend i known for about 15 years..
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