bleedenvy Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I'm a guy and i'm in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 10 months now, we really love each other ! , but recently I came to know that she's been really really extra close to my bestfriend , she tells him which bra she wears and she tells him every possible detail about herself ! She tells him she wants to pull his cheeks and wants to hug him , even though we're dating . Then What happens is , my bestfriend tells me all this and tells me not to tell her no matter what happens, and because of what she did to me , he started ignoring her and started hating her ! So at one point she realized that he is never gonna talk to her again , so she started bitching about him , and acted like she hates him cause she knew that one day my bestfriend would tell me everything she did and said behind ! It's been a few months now , she doesn't talk to him nor does he , but when ever we talk , she looks at him ! And whenever I ask her if she's been hiding anything from me , she says no ! That's the reason I've been really angry with her ! but she doesn't know that I know all this ! Now my question is, if I should talk to her about it and tell her I know everything you've done and said behind my back and give her a second chance to stay faithful in the relationship or I should never talk about it and continue dating her ? Tell me what do I do :'( or atleast tell me what would you do if you were in my place !
stillafool Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I think you should talk to her about it. Tell her everything your friend told you and watch her reaction. I think her behavior with your friend is inappropriate and pretty much sounds like she has a crush on him. Are you sure she's in love with you too?
Author bleedenvy Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 Yeah I guess , I'm not sure ! She tells me that she loves me a lot , but she ends up doing all this ! She tells me she hates him a lot , and still keeps staring at him ! How should I tell this to her ? Should I tell her in person or should I tell all this over the phone ?
stillafool Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 It doesn't matter if you tell her in person or on the phone. Say "I need to talk to you about something". Then tell her what your friend told you and tell her you are uncomfortable with it. Ask her how she would feel if you did those things and said those things to her best friend. Tell her that your friend felt it was disrespectful to you as well and that's why he doesn't want to talk to her anymore. Maybe then she will get the message that he isn't interested.
Author bleedenvy Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 Yeah , I'll do that ! Thank you ! But won't it be awkward for her ? It's like all these time she's been playing around with me and acting like she hates him , but when I tell her all this , won't she start hating me or something ? That's what I'm scared of
soccerrprp Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 bleedenvy, I'm trying to understand this whole thing... so, she never cheated on you, did she? Did she kiss him? Have sex with him? Allow the other guy to watch her as she undressed/dressed? Your best friend told you all of this, so it doesn't sound like he's hiding anything. Right? And now, he is not talking to her, right? Do you think your friend likes her? It definitely sounds mess, but she hasn't cheated. I would be concerned about her "staring" at him. Eh, maybe she does have feelings for him or maybe she likes him as a buddy, platonic friend. It seems odd for your gf to do all this and not think that your best friend isn't going to tell you. If you approach her about this, she may very well feel betrayed. She'll be pissed. She may become defensive. Tell you that it was nothing. But, it's clear that you need some clarification on this and if it bothers you, you should take this on before it could become something more painful later...OR... if she isn't making any contact with him and is showing otherwise that she is not going to pursue him or continue the relationship with him as it was, maybe you could live with that. Maybe?
Author bleedenvy Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 I have screenshots of her chat ! I have screenshots of her telling him which bra she's wearing , of her telling him when she was on her periods , she telling that she wants to pull his cheeks , and wants to hug him ! I have screenshots of all of these , but the fact that she started playing with me , so that I wouldn't believe all this takes my anger off the grid ! She told him that any girl would want to have a guy like him , she even used to purposely bump into him and smile ! , and my bestfriend doesn't open his mouth properly either ! He just sent me a few screenshots that's it ! And told me all this ! and all this happened WHEN WE WERE DATING ! So what do I do ?
Author bleedenvy Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 I really love her and I'm really confused ! Basically from the heart I still love her , but from the mind , I hate her for what she did to me
bubbaganoosh Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Which cheeks? Seriously when you seeing her staring at him, ask her why she's doing it. If she denies it, then let her know that you have noticed it more and more and would like to know what the fascination is. Watch how she responds and you should get the idea if she has the hot's for him
Author bleedenvy Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 Yeah , I'll do that , but I'm getting a little worried , what if I tell her and she leaves me :'( , what do you think will be her reaction when I tell her I know everything ?
Author bleedenvy Posted October 11, 2013 Author Posted October 11, 2013 Yeah , I guess that's what I should do , I'll tell her over the phone !
carolsmith86 Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 I read the whole thing and think that you should tell her about the things what she did. If you are in a relationship you should not hide the things from one another. Make her realize that she did wrong and you know everything about it. Don’t make yourself weak in front of her, take a stand and ask for the answer. If she really loves you she will tell everything and won't let you go from her life.
Author bleedenvy Posted October 12, 2013 Author Posted October 12, 2013 Yeah , Definitely thats there !
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