juststarry6443 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 As of late, my SO & I has been keeping things on the DL until we're ready. They are so many factors that can affect our chances of being a serious couple &I'm worried. 1. My cousin/best friend & I was in a love triangle with him long ago. But we recently just told her & tht was the easiest part. 2. Long ago, he was the man I willingly let take my virginity away when I was 16 &he was 20 now we are 19 and 23. Long ago, tht age difference was not okay with my family they were fling to charge him for statutory rape and I was forced to leave him even moved to another state. They also blame him for the time I ended up in the hospital from overdosing. 3. He has an arranged marriage planned by both families with his ex. So you see, although my cousin is very supportive of us like how can I ever like go on double dates with her or ever bring him around without it being completely awkward because I'm sure she'll have a SO whom shed have to tell about the love triangle she had with him & I. She's my BEST FRIEND...like I feel like we'd become isolated if him & I became open about it. Next, how can my family ever be willing to let him join our family he only reminds them of my near death experience and him being sexually involved with me at such a young age. Lastly, I'm not even sure his parents could ever like me either. Obviously it seems they really love his ex. I'd just look like some home-wrecker trying to ruin the plans they have for their son. I'm just so in love with this man & I don't know why we can't easily show tht we are to everyone. We can't even go on dates together without being cautious of familiar ppl seeing us together. Everything's complicated. I'm not afraid of a relationship or committing but I'm afraid of us ending because of something we can't control. I just got him back & right now I feel like why did the forces of love or something bring him back in my life when I'm just going to go through heartbreak again. We've planned to run away or some sort but idk how thts going to work. Am I going to have to cut myself off from my family? I can only see the negatives and I really don't want to.
thompkevin Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Hey, In the end, you will have to spend the majority of your time with the guy. Not with your family or your cousin. You should not let others influence your decision of a life partner. Eventually, you will be living with a guy 24/7 and your family and your cousin won't matter that much; since you will only be seeing them occasionally.
Author juststarry6443 Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 That's a very nice way of viewing things, Thank you (: Although it seems that I'm going to have to wait for tht in the end and eventually for a very long time then. &double dates or bringing him around my family still seems like it will be out of the question.
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