SugarLips72 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I'm back on here after being quiet a month. Have been doing online dating for a few months. Had OKCupid and that site was terrible and many guys out of the state so I'm back on POF. Had been talking to a guy for a few weeks. We would have met earlier but he was out of town for 2 weeks. He just moved out here for business. Totally blew up my phone. Got back in town Tue. we met Wed. Immediately he was attracted to me. It was a good date but it usually take me at least 2 dates for me to decide how much I like someone. so we met up Sat night. He had a friend in town and we all met up and him and we drank, kissed, enjoyed each others company. He kept wanting me to go back to his hotel room (he is staying in an extended stay hotel paid for by his company until he finds a place to live) I said no time to go home so we said our good byes. Sunday he texts me wanting to see me so we went to a sports bar, watched football. went back to his hotel and had sex. It was not great sex but first time sex never usually is. foreplay was good but he told me it had been so long since we had sex he came super fast. I was a little disappointed but figured there would be more times so no big deal. He texts me Sunday night saying he had a good time. Nothing since then. He was supposed to buy us tickets Mon morning to see a comedian we both like and he has not returned a text. I am kind of pissed. We only went out 3 times so I''m not emotionally invested, he seems to have gone to a great length and a little bit of a cost just to get laid. I'm wondering if he is married, lying to me the whole time, suddenly not interested or what. What a huge disappointment anyways.
coolheadal Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Sounds like what happen to my cousin. Same type of story about business and hotel. You got to be careful and sure these guy will be attracted to you right off the bad. Sure there someone back home waiting for them also. So you have to wait for him to come into town is that what your doing? Because they're not local right. Same story for the cousin she met two guys at the time. The first one wanted to go to bed with her she told him no. She never heard from him again. The second guy was so excited over her but she too told him no. But he did other things to her without going to bed with her. She would call me up while he was a sleep to ask me what to do next. Yeah I had to coach her she how no experience with dating. Anyway the second car she never heard from him again either. Again none of them where local either. All stayed in hotel. Now your waiting on man who hasn't called you yet? Is he still in town or did he return back home? Wait out a few more days? If you don't hear from him, you need to change your intent about him and more on to the next guy. Try to get someone local if you can?
Author SugarLips72 Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 He lives out here, supposedly. Moved out here in April. Has pit if state phone number. I'm usually pretty good at detecting lies and BS and he really fooled me I guess. He moved out here in April for his job and was staying with his friend. He said things got weird when his GF moved In so he moved out. Selling his house back home and until it sold he hadn't bought a place yet out here. Was staying at a pretty decent hotel. I'm wondering if everything was all lies. Not really hurt just baffled. Haven't heard from him since sun night. Oh well.
TheBladeRunner Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 There are a lot of flakes on online dating. Lies, lies, lies! I meet all kinds of wonderful people on OLD. So many in fact that I am not worthy to meet these "gems" of humanity. To punish myself for being so unworthy I am thinking of giving it all up. All kidding aside, OLD is full of flakes. People that you message, maybe have a connection, and before you know it they are gone. Showing up for first dates and they look NOTHING like their profile pics is another big thing I have run into. I have met some nice woman, but when she shows up 40 pounds heavier it is hard to be attracted. The worst ever is that they seem to have their life together and after a month of dating you find out they still have major EX-HEX issues and their life is pure turmoil far beyond what is reasonable. I am hopeful though and I try to balance OLD with IRL meeting as well, but even some of those are flaky too. I know she's out there somewhere, I just have to keep breaking those eggs to make the omelette. 1
SJC2008 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 OLD is full of flakes, I don't know if I'll ever do it again. Next time keep the lid on the cookie jar a little longer. Defiantley not a bullet proof plan but it'll help wee the pump and dump types out.
Ok Good Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Had been talking to a guy for a few weeks. We would have met earlier but he was out of town for 2 weeks. He just moved out here for business. Totally blew up my phone. Got back in town Tue. we met Wed. Immediately he was attracted to me. Nothing since then. He was supposed to buy us tickets Mon morning to see a comedian we both like and he has not returned a text. I am kind of pissed. We only went out 3 times so I''m not emotionally invested, he seems to have gone to a great length and a little bit of a cost just to get laid. I'm wondering if he is married, lying to me the whole time, suddenly not interested or what. What a huge disappointment anyways. Isn't attention from a guy great? I'm learning that when they say "protect your heart" what they're saying is be really really cautious when a guy turns on his charm Attention from a guy is so seductive that its hard to think sometimes...Cautious means slow everything down that is happening for you so that you have to time to think about what he's doing. It seems like you're normally more careful so just take this as a lesson learned & don't get bitter. You got used but you also allowed yourself to get used, sorry btw POF is often seen as a hook-up site..
loveofhorses1970 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Agreed, there are alot of flakes online. I'm on POF, also. Be careful <3
mammasita Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Well, you gave it up in less than 1/2 a week of meeting this guy in person - what did you really expect? Don't blame it on OLD. 1
Purepony Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Well, you gave it up in less than 1/2 a week of meeting this guy in person - what did you really expect? Don't blame it on OLD. Well put im gonna sign up for pof after this;)
Phantom888 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Yeah he got what he wanted, and has moved on. You were not relationship material for him. He might be lying about his life, but really you can't prove that. When a guy stops calling after sex, he's a goner.
blotter Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Classic pump and dump. It doesn't happen to you unless you let it.
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