SLW89 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Long story short.. Went together for 2 years were friends for 5 he broke it off with me. Was really mean, never sent my things, went back to his ex a month later, never ever heard from him. Saw him once he tried to say hi in his own way and I ignored. So I saw him on a dating site, it didn't bother me, it popped in my head that maybe we could get together and catch up I texted him.. after 14 months of NC.. just said hey saw you on xyz ive been thinkin of you id like to get together and have a drink if your interested let me know have a great weekend.. he wrote back at 4am " you thought of me haha" the next day I responded with something witty and he said "oh jesus haha" and that was it.. Im not understanding why even respond if you have zero intention of talking or saying yeah sure lets get a drink. Ive just taken a huge step back in healing and I don't know how to deal. I doubt ill hear from him it just has all come rushing back and my heart feels rebroken and it is devastating. I was strong for 14 months never once tried to call/talk or anything and I feel now that wow, he really doesn't love me. I don't know how to deal with it, it feels fresh and I feel weak and Im not the type to be weak. Please somebody give me any advice. :(
Bubberfly Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Long story short.. Went together for 2 years were friends for 5 he broke it off with me. Was really mean, never sent my things, went back to his ex a month later, never ever heard from him. Saw him once he tried to say hi in his own way and I ignored. So I saw him on a dating site, it didn't bother me, it popped in my head that maybe we could get together and catch up I texted him.. after 14 months of NC.. just said hey saw you on xyz ive been thinkin of you id like to get together and have a drink if your interested let me know have a great weekend.. he wrote back at 4am " you thought of me haha" the next day I responded with something witty and he said "oh jesus haha" and that was it.. Im not understanding why even respond if you have zero intention of talking or saying yeah sure lets get a drink. Ive just taken a huge step back in healing and I don't know how to deal. I doubt ill hear from him it just has all come rushing back and my heart feels rebroken and it is devastating. I was strong for 14 months never once tried to call/talk or anything and I feel now that wow, he really doesn't love me. I don't know how to deal with it, it feels fresh and I feel weak and Im not the type to be weak. Please somebody give me any advice. :( My guess is he's responding to be polite. Stay off that dating site and don't write to him again. I think the most painful thing about breaking NC is that your imagination goes wild. You have all these scenarios in your head, about how he could act or behave. It's quite "romantic" how our minds work, thinking he'll take you back into his arms and share a sweet embrace. And then reality hits you and you're deeply disappointed. I say call it an oopsies. Don't contact him again. If he doesn't want to talk to you, you shouldn't want to talk to him.
polger Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 It's a set back but you will recover quickly. In 2-3 weeks you will be back to where you were. This might be what you really needed to move on. He has 0 interest in being friends, so now you know it's over for good. His response was rude and inconsiderate, not the type of person you need in your life. Just remember that you are better off without him.
h0000 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 he went back to his ex after dating you for 2 years? it's been 2 years he still liked his ex?! and they broke up shortly after i guess so you wanted to contact him again? why would you get your hopes up? fairly speaking he didnt give you any signal..
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