paperboy48 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I have been on 3 good dates in the last week, with this girl that I was fixed up with recently, including tonight! She's on a dating site. She seems really into me, we made plans for a 4th date later this week. I go home from this date tonight feeling all warm & fuzzy - I scope out to see if she's on the dating site and she's online now! for quiet a long time. What's up with that?
Bubberfly Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I have a tendency of logging in to websites, leaving and forgetting to log off or shut my computer down. Dating websites are technically social media, I've gone on there and made friends, can chat for quite a while and it purely platonic. If you're curious, you should ask her. And you don't have much to say, you're on there too 1
MalachiX Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Let it go. Her browser might open it up automatically because it was open before (Chrome does this) and she forgets to close it. Maybe she's on there debating whether or not to close her account cuz she likes you to. Or, maybe she's still messaging other guys. Until you two kids are exclusive, it's not your business. 1
Mascara Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 If its OKC, that site keeps you as "Online Now" for 60 minutes after your last clickable activity.
phineas Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 From what i've figured out, if you have the phone app & your phone is not on standby the app will ping the dating websites looking for notifications & sometimes show you as being online. Or, she could still be online looking for other guys. Which means you should also & trying to still meet other women. Or she could be logging in to see if you are still logging in. Or you could just take a step back & not get invested in a woman so quickly & just not care like me until you are having sex on the regular so you don't end up freaking out over it.
crederer Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 As other people said, she may have forgot to log out. Also, if you're not exclusive she's free to do what she wants.
KatZee Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Let's not all be naive and say things like "Chrome forgot to log her out" or "She left the computer on." She's absolutely still browsing the dating site. That's where she met you, and I'm sure that's where she met others, and I'm sure she has other dates lined up. It's never a smart move to just see one person at a time when you're doing OLD. You want to keep the dates coming in this way you can go further with some people, while completely eliminating other people. This is known as "circular dating" and it's important that people do this and not toss all eggs in one basket only to be disappointed. You guys are not in a relationship, you guys are not having sex, so whatever dates she's going on, whoever she's getting to know--- not your business... and frankly, you know how OLD works... you should honestly expect this anyway. 1
Author paperboy48 Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 It's never a smart move to just see one person at a time when you're doing OLD. You want to keep the dates coming in this way you can go further with some people, while completely eliminating other people. This is known as "circular dating" and it's important that people do this and not toss all eggs in one basket only to be disappointed. We did not meet online - we were fixed up via a mutual friend. I actually saw she was on the site I am on and wanted to view her profile withoout her knowing I viewed it. The only way to do this is to "hide your profile". So, I did and now as soon as I unhide my profile, it will show that I veiwed her - Yikes!! Good advice - not to put all of your eggs in on basket though. I guess I am just Ol' School. If I have been on numerous dates and am starting to develop feelings for someone, I have no desire to pursue someone else at the same time. I want to pursue the girl I am dating and if it doesn't work out, then I'll pursue someone else at the point. 2
soccerrprp Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 We did not meet online - we were fixed up via a mutual friend. I actually saw she was on the site I am on and wanted to view her profile withoout her knowing I viewed it. How did you know she was online if you didn't go online searching for other prospects? What I'm asking is, did someone tell you she was online, on the same site you're on? Or did you accidentally find her while you were perusing through the other options? Yeah, as others have said. You are not exclusive, so she can do what she wants. Good luck.
mammasita Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I agree with KatZee, if you havent discussed being exclusive then don't be so surprised that she is on a dating site and actually browsing.....shocker! 1
MidwestUSA Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 So, you wanted to stalk her profile and are now upset by what you found? OLD games, plain and simple. Until you're exclusive, as others have said, she's free to keep her options open.
Author paperboy48 Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 I was going to say, "so then I need to make the move to be exclusive" but, I told her on our first date, I have dated numerous women at one time before and I will never do it again!
TheBladeRunner Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I agree with KatZee, if you havent discussed being exclusive then don't be so surprised that she is on a dating site and actually browsing.....shocker! Mammasita is right, when there's no exclusivity then it's fair game. I get it, it bums me out when I have a decent date and I see her online, but what can you do? All I can say is you have to break a lot of eggs in this game to make an omelette! (and the other person probably feels this way too). Take care, I am headed to the store to the egg isle......maybe speed things up
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