geegee81 Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 I've known my ex for over 4 years. I was friends with her for 3 and dated her for 1...was really hard to cut her off. Was used to talking to her everyday for 4 years straight. Its difficult to do what I did, but it was for the best. Trust me, i know how you feel. I miss calling him and texting him. I did it everyday so it was part of my routine and my life. Sometimes i wonder if he misses me or still thinks about me. But then again our conversations were always empty..We would discuss superficial stuff like weather or work. But the conversation still meant something to me since i was connceting with him. Its just nice to hear a familiar voice when you're lonely. Im suppressing the pain by calling other guys for meager small talk, calling my dad, or a few of my friends. I don't have a best friend that will listen non stop, so i turn to online forums for support.
sweetheart5381 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 I agree, there is no real closure. In my case, there is some however. My ex broke up with me in a 5 minute phone call on a Saturday night. After 6 months of intimacy, false promises and fake gestures he decided the cocaine and percs were more important in his life. Of course, he told me there was no "spark" but that was because he spent the majority of his time either getting high, or dealing with being dry. At first I was devastated, I loved him, became attached and he did what he promised he would never do... abandon me completely. I poured my heart out, begged him to reconsider to which he replied with cold, rehearsed lines. He sealed the deal. Then I started to really think critically about the "relationship". I made him pay in his own words I played with him for awhile, told him I wanted his friendship, threatened suicide (lol, as if!) He broke down like a child, expressed how sorry he was, blah, blah, blah. He reached out to me, as I laughed at his foolishness. Then I let him have it - told him exactly what I thought of his behaviour, what I had personally dealt with due to his behaviour, etc. He has not responded as far as I know, I haven't looked at my phone to find out I can walk away knowing that I said what needed to be said. If you can "fire it and forget it" then it may be good to get the negative energy out of your system.
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