SiaLv82 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Long distance and meeting through internet dating site --does it work? I've been corresponding with a guy that I have yet to meet due to living in another state. The distance is far, a few states away. At first, I didn't take it seriously because of the distance. Last night I stumbled across a video of him on the internet. Prior I only had pictures. After seeing the video, I know 100% if he was in the area --id be all over it. He's definitely my type. More so than any of the guys I have dated in the last two yrs. Now all this has got me thinking whether I should continue trying or let go due to distance. I think if I keep talking to him even without meeting, I will eventually be crushed if we decide to stop talking. A girl I know actually met and married a guy from another country..however, I always felt those are exceptions to the rule. What is your take?
Brown-Eyez Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 depends on what your goals are just dating or something long-term? if its long-term are you willing to move? and if just dating, why settle with seeing someone not as often as you want? the guy i was seeing lived 400 miles away and I HATED not being able to see him like more than 1-2x a month! plus from what i hear, trust issues can be a real problem
MrCastle Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Have you planned on meeting up? I'm a live-in-the-moment type of guy. Meet him, see if the chemistry is real. Enjoy the time spent, and take it from there. If for nothing else, enjoy the experience. It's rare we find people we are super into. Usually we have to make due with what's around us. When you have an opportunity like that, you have to grab it. I know I would... If this guy really seems like your type, meet up and have some fun. 2
Author SiaLv82 Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 Goal is to find something long term otherwise I would have not bothered from the beginning. Yes and I definitely agree this is very rare. I can find men that I am attracted to or get along with but definitely rare as you get older to find someone who gives you the butterflies at the idea of it all.
FitChick Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Are job prospects better in his state or yours? He should visit you first, regardless. Find a cheap motel for him to stay unless you have an extra bedroom.
ThisGal Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 (edited) My b/f and I met off the Internet a little over a year ago. We've been flying back and forth seeing each other ever since. It's not easy but def worth it. He is now trying to find a job in my state. We are in different states - 12 hours away to be exact. It's far but we're both willing to make things work. We trust one another completely and love being together and cherish being apart as well. I was out there with him for a few months during the summer, however, I am unwilling to move to him, he already knows this. He is making every effort to move here now. I'll be seeing him again in a little over a month. I've always said I didn't understand why anyone would bother with long distance, and why anyone would ever bother with online dating...I was wrong! I would have never met a man like him in my state. I get approached quite often and no man has been like him, past and present. We both love each other and he has told me every time that he would have never met a woman like me and is so thankful to God to have met me. He treats me so well and cares about me deeply. I say give it a chance, just don't force things. Let everything happen naturally. That's the approach I took with us. I let it all go at its own pace and didn't really worry much about tomorrow. He is now talking marriage. I feel a proposal coming soon. Enjoy each others company and if it doesn't work out, oh well, it just didn't but at least there aren't any 'what ifs' no regrets not ever giving it a chance. You'll be fine. Go with your gut. Take care! Edited October 13, 2013 by ThisGal
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