Spoonss Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 My ex who dumped me for another guy who she currently is still dating just sent me a friend request. We dated for 5 years and its been 5 months pbu she cheated on me with this guy and hurt me so bad. I dont understand why she is adding me at all. Definatly brings back memories:lmao:
ponchsox Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Ignore the request, obviously. She wants an ego boost by showing you how well she is doing pbu. 1
melell Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Yup, ignore the request. It will help you none to be able to see what is going on with them. They are most likely adding you because they want you to see how they have been. Usually the case with fb 2
Author Spoonss Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 Mother Fu Ckers can be so cruel. as if it wasnt enough that she cheated one me she constantly contacts me even though i changed my number she always calls my home phone looking for me or sending me messages wanting to meet and catch up. First Loves gone wrong are the worst.
Beautiful diamond Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Please decline that then block her. She wants to cheat on him with you now lol. Looks like you win :laugh: She is a cheater and cruel. RUN ----------------> No SPRINT-------------->
flitzanu Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 My ex who dumped me for another guy who she currently is still dating just sent me a friend request. We dated for 5 years and its been 5 months pbu she cheated on me with this guy and hurt me so bad. I dont understand why she is adding me at all. Definatly brings back memories:lmao: because she is totally fine with being "just friends" with you. 1
h0000 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 why cant she add you? it doesnt affect her feelings and she doesn't know or doesn't care how it affects your feelings.
polger Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Probably misses you and has been thinking about you lately. She wants to add you, so she can tell herself that you are ok with what happened, basically she is trying to justify cheating to herself. She may be coming to the end of the honeymoon phase of her new relationship and with the excitement of a having a new partner is gone, she is finally realizing the severity of her emotions after the break up. Either way, she is not happy and feels the need to prove to you that she is happy with her decision. Block and tell her to leave you alone, she doesn't deserve to have you in her life. 5
Chi townD Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Dude, just ignore her. I speculate the reasons why she's constantly contacting you is she knows she did you wrong. She cheated on you and left you for the guy she cheated with. She's got a lot of guilt. Some are saying that she wants to show you how better her life is without you. And I agree to a point. But, I think her main motivation with the friend request is for her to see how YOU'RE doing. I mean, you're ignoring her texts and phonecalls, so if you won't communicate with her through the phone, she wants to see your Facebook page. To see pics of you and see if you look happy in them. Or your status updates would tell her what you're doing with your life. If you're moving on and if you're happy. To see what you've been up to since she devastated you. If she discovered that you're moving on and seem to be doing alright, then she can ease her guilt and convince herself that what happened is "water under the bridge! Look! See, he's fine." Let her hold on to her guilt. Let her learn from it. That you can't treat people the way that she did and think that everything turns out alright. 2
barky2 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Look at all the assumptions on why she added you How many different ones are in your head Fact is it doesn't matter why she added you Ignore her request, block her, and continue living your life Fact . Barky 2
cif Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 She might have used the app to scan her contacts. If there was no message included I'd block.
dolita Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 I would just leave it there and make her sweat, that's what I did with my ex and he keeps inboxing me. we can still talk because whatever he says or does does not affect me anymore, but he is bitter that I won't add (or ignore him) he just automatically goes into my follower list lol so why care so much about this, just leave it, don't block or anything because, who cares
Stealth3 Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Decline her request and block her ass. She is dead to you now, the second you believe that and start thinking like that, the better you get.
thefooloftheyear Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Facebook is a joke...do as the others have said...Or find the hottest woman you have ever seen, ask her to take a loving and seductive pic with you and post it as your profile pic-just to eff with her head-because thats all shes doing to you.. Better yet-just dump your account entirely....Go back to it at a later time if you want. TFY
Ordinaryday Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Probably a mixture of curiosity and her looking to ease her guilt by seeing that you are doing 'okay' without her. she also may want you to do some sort of favour for her or bail her out of a problem she is having and she thinks she still has the right to turn to you for that kind of support. in my experience, those are the reasons. don't respond unless you get the letter everyone wants - "dumping you was the biggest mistake I ever made, I will do whatever it takes to prove my devotion to you" and even if she does send you that letter (highly unlikely) be very cautious. 1
KCCK Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 receive a similar invitation today from google plus.. haha... open my email account and receive a mail with her face and her new bf and the words, XXX adds you to her circle of friends and invites you to google plus.. haha... it sure hurts but gonna just ignore it. Never let one person who doesnt care about you ruin your life.. XD
Birdsnest Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 The only thing I can make of this is that you are still hurting, and therefore are best off kept away from your old girlfriend. So I would suggest not adding her on facebook, she cheated and 5 months after 5 years is not a long time really. I suspended my facebook account and found it liberating, I don't have to think about stuff like this. If facebook is causing you emotional trouble too, then step away. I now call friends or meet with them instead of facebooking them and its a much more valuable form of contact.
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