BM2448 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Ok just a bit of background: I met this girl a few months ago but we just started to flirt and talk more with each other a few weeks ago. She goes to the same university I do but have totally different classes, so we keep in contact through the phone. I feel like she's beginning to show signs that she is into me and probably wants more. However, I remember that she did flake on me once with no warning. Let's call her girl "A". Now, just last month, I left an event that A attended with her friends and I ended up meeting another girl that was with the group (let's call her girl "B"). She's also from the same university and is friends with A. B told me to add her on Facebook and we started talking from there. She enjoyed the conversations and we eventually swapped numbers. We met up only once to just talk and grab a bite to eat for lunch. We just casually have conversations and the flirting has not gone past one short-lived episode. Here's where it gets hairy: B brought up an idea for us to do at a big event coming up this week, particularly going dressed up alike. We planned it out and I carried on with it. A couple of days later however, A asks me if I'm going to go to that event. I said yes, and she said she was going too, also saying she can't wait for the day and that it'll be a fun time. Essentially, I am meeting both girls at the same place for the same event. I'm really nervous about this. On one side, I'm still single. There has been no talk of exclusivity, let alone I haven't formally dated either of them to this point, just hung out with the girls separately a couple of times for lunch. Besides that, we only talk by phone. On the other end, I like their company, and I'm worried that I'm going to hurt them, lose both of them in a heartbeat, and end up with a grudge from both, all in one day because they are friends with each other. Am I overreacting for no big deal? Is there any way to keep this situation as cool as possible so that the day and night can go smoothly? Please help me out y'all. Serious answers too.
Mascara Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Do you have a death wish, or am I reading this incorrectly? You're going on two dates with two different girls.... at the same time? 1
Author BM2448 Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 It's a sports event, so they'll both be there at the same time. I would not call it a date, rather a time to hang out and have fun. But I'm just worried it has been misinterpreted as a date, which is where the plan conflict comes up, which then leads to the nervousness about this.
Mascara Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Brah, you SHOULD be nervous. This is not going to end well. (I recently learned the word "brah" on here. Am I using it right? I've decided it's my new 'thing') 1
Author BM2448 Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 Well wouldn't be better to tell A what's really going on? It isn't until much later this week, so I'm thinking that by being upfront with her, it's gonna hold a bit of the sting back compared to me never saying anything (even worse, getting her all excited for it) and her finding out THAT DAY. Granted, it wasn't smart at all to conflict them, but isn't it better to make some light of it before it's too late? And yeah brah, you've got it right.
Mascara Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Definitely deal with it before the date. Then, if they're cool with it.... all good. Don't go into it with both of them in the dark.
Author BM2448 Posted October 13, 2013 Author Posted October 13, 2013 Thanks for the assist. Talked with them both and they were cool with it, even to the point that we just turned it into a group thing with some other people invited. But both ended up flaking with no warning, leaving us few left to enjoy the game. It's all good though.
Misfortune Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Thanks for the assist. Talked with them both and they were cool with it, even to the point that we just turned it into a group thing with some other people invited. But both ended up flaking with no warning, leaving us few left to enjoy the game. It's all good though. I don't think they were "ok" with it. How have things been with them since the event?
Shepp Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 go through with this and you'll never have the chance to be exclusive with either of them! Your gonna get slaughtered brother!
Author BM2448 Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 I don't think they were "ok" with it. How have things been with them since the event? We're still talking like nothing happened, just less than before, particularly if we pass by each other in the halls. They haven't brought it up since then so I haven't paid too much mind to it.
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