SSully237 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 First and foremost, my ex is a great father. My ex and I are currently going through a custody battle. We have a 14 month old together. We have been split up for about nine months. I originally split up from him and he tried all he could to get us back together, but I wanted a separation for a while. Well he eventually found someone else, then of course it hit me and I was devastated. They were together only four months so even though it was a rebound relationship, she was like a second mom to my our child. They have since broken up. During their relationship when they had short breaks, my ex &I talked about reconciling someday but the problems were still there that split us up. And I was immature and tried to get in between them, which made him mad. We have now gotten to the point where things are really emotional between us because of this custody battle. We have been together sexually twice recently which is a mistake I know. One day he is nice and texting me & the next he is horribly mean. We really loved each other before and were a great little family but a lot of bad things have been said/done in past few months after splitting and now going through this custody battle. We have only had a few sentences of contact over text in past two weeks and I've made sure it's only about our daughter. Before I was constantly texting him about pointless stuff and he hated it, so I've gained some self control. He txt me about our daughter the other day and that was first time in two weeks we had contact. We tried to reconcile since May/June but things didn't really go anywhere then because he had just broken up with his gf. We loved each other & share a child..but we just have so much anger towards each other. I've tried mentioning reconciling to him...maybe even somewhere in the future. He has never told me "no it's over" but has never given me an answer. He just ignores it. What can I do? He always told me he never wanted our family to split up and the only thing he wanted was a family. I just still have faith that someday we will work it all out as I don't think he has completely let me go yet but there is so much anger and bad. I've apologized and etc. And now I think I'll just kinda let him go. What else can I do?
devilish innocent Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I would only reconcile if you can both take things really slow and agree to go to couple's counseling. If your jumping back into a tumultuous relationship, than that will harm your child.
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