joe86 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 So, it's almost 2 months since she left me & I'm the kind of guy who commits easily & holds on to feelings, you know - the caring type! Anyway, she had something of mine still & after various texts from her saying 'I've still got that plate, I need to get it back to you', I just said yesterday, I'll come & get it. So I went round, let her initiate conversation & she just really wanted to ask about how I am, what I've been up to. The type of conversation I expected really. I think I've seen it said on here its the type of thing ex's will talk about when they're looking to get an ego boost. I wasn't too bothered about how she is, but tried to ask similar questions anyway, everything she said was as I expected really, busy with work, happy etc. But she did say she had been dating someone, someone she already kind of knew. This surprised me, but didn't bother me really. I didn't ask any questions, and she moved straight back to a work conversation after I said I had no interest in seeing anyone at the moment. I don't know if she mentioned it to see how I'd react or something, but I don't really know if it came up after I asked how she was out of work, or if she just brought it up. Anyway, she said "I just thought you should know" which is why I think she wanted a reaction. I wasn't sure how I would take the whole thing, it being at her house and everything, but I was happy with it. This is only the end of my 3rd serious relationship & I've really learned a lot in the past two months. I am quick to commit and love to make people happy. She never did commit & hopefully in future I'll ignore the red flags and not give more than I should. Don't know if anyone has anything to say, I always welcome discussion but usually it seems the way I write these things doesn't enable much in the way of comments! 4
AnnaAnna Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Well, it seems like you're moving on and that's great. Obviously she has and she wanted you to know about it.
Author joe86 Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 Yeah I suppose that was the most obvious way she could & it worked. Thank you 1
Author joe86 Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 (edited) Woke up today with a feeling I should say something I didn't last night... "After the things I heard you said about us on your birthday, you should accept the real reason it fell apart. You stopped wanting to make it work." She clearly still blames the end on our different personalities & 'wanting different things'. But maybe she isn't worth my wisdom. I'll take solitude in my horoscope for today... You may have experienced a loss or a disappointment recently, but it is not the end of the world. If you look at this as a plan for your greater good - something the universe has arranged that may not make sense just yet - you can look at this as a step toward something better. Edited October 9, 2013 by joe86 1
Author joe86 Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 (edited) I've finally found that angry stage of the process! I thought I'd skipped this. She left me for another guy. Ha. Edited October 9, 2013 by joe86
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