funkty dumpty Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Hi everyone, I'm currently dating a girl I met through friends a few months ago. We get on really well, meeting up is fun (5/6 dates?) and we text a fair bit. It's flirty. We kissed once after watching a film at my house - was going great until she said she had to go, not wanting to explain why... This confused me but didn't concern me too much. That was a while ago now and while she's always keen to meet at a bar or cinema, she comes across as somewhat reluctant to meet up again in a situation that could escalate into something. I've suggested coming over/me going over to hers a few times but she's always come back with something else. While I really like her and enjoy what we have, I'm not head-over-heels in love and fear that without developing more of a physical connection things might become stale. This would be a shame! Is this a common situation? What do people suggest I do?
hudson701 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 I'm in the exact same situation as you. Have had great 3 dates, loads in common but she doesn't show me any physicality whatsoever. She doesn't resist my advances but absolutely never initiates any affectionate contact. It's been nearly 2 months and we haven't passed kissing goodnight. I'm losing interest rapidly as things are beginning to get stale. Indeed, as you rightly point out, things need to progress to a more physical level for me to really fall in love. My gut instinct is telling me she just isn't that into me and that I should move on, which I intend to do. This doesn't bother me at all; I'm older, wiser and been through all this game playing before. I just really can't be arsed for it anymore- I enjoy being single too much!
headinthecloud Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Sounds like you're not that into her and she's picked up on that and is protecting herself from being hurt. Sex for women is typically more intimate and sounds like she's looking for a relationship not a casual dating scenario.
Author funkty dumpty Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 I think you're right ^. Thanks for the reply But the reality is that you can grow to love someone if you have the chance. While I'm not obsessed with her now, I do feel that is potential there if we play it correctly. I guess I'm frustrated that it might not work out. It's not a conscious thing. I think I'll give it a few more weeks and see how things go. If nothing has changed I'll have a chat a be honest with her.
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