Blazintrav Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 I invited a girl named Olivia to a Winter Formal at my school. Not as a date but just as an invite, since people bring guests all the time. What I am bad at is telling a girl that I want a casual hang out rather than a commitment to date. Simply because I know talking to someone and really getting to know them is essential. I have quite a lot of experiance with girls, but I guess not enough to solve the awkwardness of trying to get someone to hang out with me. So basically I am stuck right now because either the girl thinks I am pursuing her for a relationship, which is not the case. Is there any way I can salvage this? I mean I would be interested in a relationship, but not yet at least.
Devildog Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 Gee, I don't know, have you tried honesty? Be up front, that you think she is a fun, wonderful person that you would like to be friends with. Don't let her think you see this as a romance if it isn't. The earlier you do this the better. It probably would have been better to start a friendship with her before asking her to a formal dance.
Author Blazintrav Posted December 3, 2004 Author Posted December 3, 2004 We are friends... and I have talked to her before.
Devildog Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 So then you have made it clear to her that you are just friends and not "dating" because of this formal dance invite?
Author Blazintrav Posted December 3, 2004 Author Posted December 3, 2004 Originally posted by Devildog So then you have made it clear to her that you are just friends and not "dating" because of this formal dance invite? I'm in the process of that now. But I see your point of view very clearly.
Author Blazintrav Posted December 4, 2004 Author Posted December 4, 2004 Uh she told me to back off after talking to her for a while tonight. Although there were other times where her friends had her phone, so it might have been wrong? What should I do forget about her?
Devildog Posted December 4, 2004 Posted December 4, 2004 She probably wants more than to just be friends. And it is usually very hard and hurtful to be friends and close to someone that doesn't share the same feelings as you do. I think it might be best to back off. She obviously thought this was more than it was, and if that isn't what you want then you shouldn't put her through an emotional wringer by pushing things any further.
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