sweet05 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 I have written here before about my breakup last week. Well he said he needed some time and space that he was too stressed that maybe someday we could be back together. That he was taking his weekend to relax. Well I kind of went psycho on the weekend and I am SO NOT PROUD about it. I called him everyday but he didn't pick up, I send him to emails, like 3 texts and wrote some things in his gchat. Today he wrote me that he was very sorry but that he now could never be my friend anymore. That he doesn't know how any of my exs can be my friends when I act that way, that he felt violated, and I only cause him a lot of anxiety in this weekend he just wanted to relax. I feel bad but just with myself, I shouldn't have donde that, I was a mess and thats not who I am. What do you think about his reaction? I am going totally NC we blocked ourselves from everywhere!
Philosoraptor Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Well, who care's what he thinks? You made a mistake out of your character, accepted it, and you will learn from the experience. Just let it go and work on moving on with your life. 3
Author sweet05 Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 Thank you I don't really know what happened to me, feel so ashamed. But I do know now that I don't want him in my life, as much pain and sadness I feel, its much better to just let go.
Sneaky Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 It's okay, we all make mistakes. It's in the past, what's important now is to focus on moving on. I hope things improve for you. 2
Author sweet05 Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 Thanks I just feel bad about that behaviour. Didn't want to be that psycho ex and it seemed that I made it look that way this weekend.
reddragon588 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 It's not a mistake, it's a learning experience. It is only a negative if you don't learn from it. 1
Vinsanity1307 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 This bothers me in general.....For the most part people who never really experienced heartbreak wont/do not understand what its like and the feeling that we have...So we are referenced as "crazy"..which is unfair..Not until now I thought the same exact way of people..But now I understand why people snap/or beg and plead/and act out of desperation when catching their lovers cheating , or when they are dumped, or something to do with heartache... Cause I am experiencing it......But like I said for the most part people who havent experienced it do not understand the way we act or think and are less sympathetic so we are labeled as just crazy... 3
Beautiful diamond Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 At the point he is its best to leave him alone for good. He feels smothered and will do anything to be free again. There may be another woman or he could just want to break up. Either way his reaction is very plain. He is not interested in any type of relationship. 1
Author sweet05 Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 Thats what I think so too, I know I shouldn't have pushed that much for my self pride. But he is obvious not into me, I am pretty sure it might be another woman. At least this made me let go, and think as him like someone who just died. He texted today what I told you that he felt violated, and also said you push and I just pull away harder, thats has a lot to say. I guess that mean open your eyes and let me alone "I am not into you". As sad as it is, time to move on! 1
Beautiful diamond Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 One day he will be back. Just be prepared not to fall for his lies again. 1
Author sweet05 Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 Thats what I was thinking too, that he was very rude by saying he can never be my friend again upon how I behaved in the weekend, that he felt violated. He should have understood a little of my pain. He has blocked me everywhere (facebook, whatsapp, gchat, sms messages) just to make sure I dont bother him (wich I won't do anymore). But I know that he'll come back eventually. He asked how my exes are my friends but this has happened before and then months later they come back, but I am soooo over them. 1
candie13 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 You are dealing with a liar and a coward. Liar, because he wasn't "taking a break" he was leaving you. Taking a break is giving you a time frame - we're off for 2 week, it's explaining why he's taking a break - I need space, I want to get clarity on these matters. Coward because he knew very well he was not "taking a break" but breaking up with you, but didn't have the courage to tell it to you face. And then, totally withdrew. Under these circumstances, of course you'd go crazy, if you are inlove. I am not saying you were right or smart to go crazy, but it is understandable that you freaked out and tried to get back in contact with him. He is a double coward, because he used your frantic reaction - something that he deliberately created - against you and finally break up with you. This way, he is not the bad guy, you are . Wrong, girl, that's only cheap manipulation. If you really want to give him a taste of his own medicine, just disappear. No more news, no more texts, calls, go cold turkey NOW. This has 2 benefits: no 1. he expects to hear from you some more, you are feeding his ego, he is used to have all or most of all your attention. No 2. by going NC, you get some of that bruised pride back. You are showing to yourself that you have a back bone. That last weekend was nothing but an episode. Stay strong and absolutely DO NOT CONTACT HIM for at least 2 weeks. I am almost sure that by the third week, he'll get back in contact with you. Not to get back together, but for another ego stroke. Don't give him that satisfaction. Tell us how it goes. Stay strong. 2
Author sweet05 Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 Thank you Candie! I am so not going back to last weekend episode. Not even waiting for him to contact me or want him to contact me, I need to heal and move on. If he does contact me I wont answer and give him some of his medicine back 1
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