How many affairs in your family?

[ChooseTruth]

Just wondering what kind of numbers people have here. Thinking about my aunts, uncles, cousins, etc, I could think of about 7 different affairs that have happened. There's probably more that I don't know about. (just thought of another one while writing this)

 

What about you guys' families?

[LBlanc]

(1) Grandfather--my mom's father; (2) Mom; (3) dad; (4) uncle--dad's older bro; (5)aunt--dad's younger sis; (6) another aunt--mom's younger sis; (7) my younger sister...

[carhill]

How many affairs in your family?

Other than my EA's, none that I know of. Most of the family is dead but I don't recall any significant changes during their lifetimes, meaning scuttlebutt of affairs or partner changes which aroused suspicions. Probably the main 'affair' component was one which occurred prior to my birth where my father's first wife left him while he was deployed during WW2 and took up with another man, divorced him and took his daughters. I only know of the details because of his and her letters I found amongst his effects after he died, along with child support checks. So, in my case anyway, there appears to be no FOO commonalities relevant to my EA's.

[dichotomy]

On my side 0 my late father who married his OW, my brother (ONS in his first marriage).

 

On my wife's side - her dad many many times (what a mess he caused for all and me too).

 

But there maybe more,but could be hidden. I heard rummors about my sisters husband many years ago, but they are still very long term married.

[cocorico]

My mother was allegedly "seeing someone" while my father was stationed abroad during the early years of their M. My oldest brother is apparently the offspring of that R - certainly, he looks nothing like the rest of us, and has a striking resemblance to the alleged father. I only heard that recently from my father when I came across an old photo of someone who looked very like my brother, and asked who it was. There was never any hint in how we were brought up that he was not my father's kid.

 

My uncle (mother's sister's H) may have had an A. My aunt thought he had, but he denied it. He was an abusive drunkard, so it would simply have been yet another cross she chose to bear.

 

My father had an A during the last years of his M, when we were finishing high school. When we left home, so did he.

[Shepp]

None, that I know of.

Rumour is my aunts husband wandered before they divorced but he never admitted it and she doesn't believe he did, so none.

[ChooseTruth]

I don't understand why a thread asking about infidelity counts was moved out of the infidelity board. Maybe a mod can explain so I know better in the future?

 

Thanks for the replies so far

[JamesM]

I only know of one and that is a cousin who was much older than myself.

 

She (according to what I was told) had an abusive husband, a drinker, (seemed nice enough to me). Their friends lived nearby and the wife died of cancer. Well, my cousin of course comforted the poor husband, and I guess that comforting included more than was necessary. Being that she was lonely and abused, they decided to make the affair public.

 

They married. And then a few years later divorced.

 

She remarried another man whose first wife died of cancer but had no prior affair that I was told. They lived happily ever after until she died of cancer about four or five years ago at around sixty. She was always nice to me and did seem happier with her final husband.

 

The original husband? He remarried, too, but died a few years later from a heart attack.

 

A rather sad story that contains a moral somewhere.

 

And that is the only one that was made public. I always suspected that my now dead uncle was a suspicious character that way with women, but my folks always defended him. I once saw him spank the butt of a young lady at a picnic and treat her with some weird hugs IMO. But that is the perspective of a preteen. Strange as it sounds, the lady was my cousin who is told in the story above....and that uncle? He was her father.

 

Again, I always wondered.

Edited October 8, 2013 by JamesM

[William]

I don't understand why a thread asking about infidelity counts was moved out of the infidelity board. Maybe a mod can explain so I know better in the future?

 

Thanks for the replies so far

The infidelity forum is for members who are in an affair, posting about their affair, and for those who suspect their spouse/partner of an affair and/or have a spouse/partner in an affair. Asking members about family affair histories has nothing to do with the focus of that forum, hence moved to GRD.

 

There is a relevant thread posted at the top of both the Infidelity and OM/OW forums outlining forum policy on such matters. Its existence predates yours. Question answered. In the future, such on-forum questions are to be confined to our Questions and Comments forum. Thanks.

[bentleychic]

I honestly do not know total. I'm not the familiar with aunts and uncles mostly.

 

My mother, sister and SIL have all had A's. I know one uncle has. I don't about the rest.

[compulsivedancer]

My mom had an EA when I was a kid. My brother had a PA not so long ago. My sister's exH left her for his GF. Rumor has it that she stole him from his xW. That's 4/5, if you count me.

[Bubberfly]

My fathers side is notorious for this. My father, had one when I was very young. 25 years later my mother still hasn't recovered from his actions.

I vowed growing up I would never do the same.

 

I never have had an affair nor do I plan on doing so. It ravaged our family and ripped it apart. I could never do that to mine.

[Silly_Girl]

We're a small family. Each parent has only one sibling. My bio-dad left my mum for his AP when I was 3. As far as I know, that's it. Although I'd imagine there's more somewhere along the line, purely based on stats and general experiences of friends.

[HtotheN]

I hesitate to write this since there have been so many cheaters in my family but here goes:

 

My grandfather was a major philanderer and my mother knew it as a child. She remembers him having her iron his shirt so that he could go out on the town all the time. She hated him for that and has daddy issues to this day because of it. Ironically, she had an affair with her very married doctor who already had 3 children at home. She became pregnant with me from that affair. I never got to meet my bio-dad and I am told that I have his eyebrows and look like him a little. I found one of my half-siblings online a few years ago as he is a church pastor. On the church website are pictures of all 3 of my half-siblings. I considered contacting him but have decided not to as all we share is DNA. My sister cheated on her current husband (doesn't know that I know) with the husband of one of her closest friends. One of my aunts cheated years ago with an insurance salesman and then had the nerve years later to nearly lose it when her husband cheated on her. She supposedly freaked out and tried to kill him. WH's father cheated on WH's mother, and the apple did not fall far from the tree, obviously. I have several other aunts and uncles and none of them cheated as far as I know but after writing all of this, I feel like the white sheep of the family. I have always been vehemently opposed to cheating. I am no saint; I am simply not wired for cheating.

[gaius]

My great grandparents and grandparents were all loyal. My mother and all her siblings have cheated. As far as I know none of my generation has cheated, but it's women mostly. I'm pretty sure at least one has been cheated on. I've never cheated and the only other guy besides me is such a loser I don't think he could cheat if he wanted to.

[atreides]

Father-in-law

Brother-in-law

several more on my in-laws side

2 Uncles

2 Aunts