ThatMan Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 (edited) Hey everyone, How has life been treating you? I'm no stranger to the dating scene and I love being around people to strike up lively conversations. But lately I've been confronted with a new set of circumstances that I'm unfamiliar with. I've never had a long-distance relationship before so I'm unsure of myself. Due to my vocational path, I'm going to move all across the country as I begin to establish myself within the next six years. I also have no idea where I will end up for a residency program or how the interview process will go. I'm at a point in my life where casual relationships aren't very appealing to me. I would prefer to find a special person to be in a serious relationship with. I'm even unsure of myself in how to bring up the topic with potential dates. I certainly do not want to be alone for the next several years, but I'm also very determined in this decision and I will not give up my dreams. Edited October 8, 2013 by ThatMan Thank you for any input.
TMichaels Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Hey everyone, How has life been treating you? I'm no stranger to the dating scene and I love being around people to strike up lively conversations. But lately I've been confronted with a new set of circumstances that I'm unfamiliar with. I've never had a long-distance relationship before so I'm unsure of myself. Due to my vocational path, I'm going to move all across the country as I begin to establish myself within the next six years. I also have no idea where I will end up for a residency program or how the interview process will go. I'm at a point in my life where casual relationships aren't very appealing to me. I would prefer to find a special person to be in a serious relationship with. I'm even unsure of myself in how to bring up the topic with potential dates. I certainly do not want to be alone for the next several years, but I'm also very determined in this decision and I will not give up my dreams. Okay, so what's your problem/question/issue? Best, TMichaels
Author ThatMan Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 Problem: I want to build a committed relationship. After a couple of weeks I have to confess to them that, "In several months I need to live over ten hours away from the area..." At which point I'm written off and I never hear from them again. I've only had luck dating casually. But I don't want to spin my tires in a casual relationship putting out the work, wondering what the heck is the point of this? I want to build a committed relationship, and possibly a long distance relationship, but I can't seem to pull it off. Question: Is there any I can successfully enter a committed relationship with anyone if I'm probably going to move over four times in six years? Any suggestions? Issue: Having to wait until my career is settled isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm going to have to move across the country at times.
carhill Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 My suggestion would be to focus on the now and let the 'several months from now' take care of itself if and when it gets here. In interacting, focus on the passion you have for your career rather than the logistics of establishing it. Expect that most relationships will end or be short term and that in and of itself can be a healthy stepping stone to what you desire for a life partnership. Your posting brings to mind the lovely lady who sat next to me yesterday on my way home from the east coast. She had recently retired as a 40 year veteran flight attendant for American Airlines and is 66 and has never been married. She's seen the world, has had romances (she said) and a healthy family life, most often talking about her 88yo father who's dating after her mother's death. She lived life on her terms, working primarily in international markets, traveling all over the world for her job, never had a husband or long-term partner, and has no regrets. She was possibly one of, if not the most positive seatmates I've had the pleasure of speaking to in the couple million miles I've flown in my life. You're in charge of you. You choose what you want and how you perceive what you get. Good luck in your choices.
Author ThatMan Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 I appreciate the suggestion carhill. That thoughtful message puts everything into a better perspective for me.
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