He dumped me and i am in no contact rule? Will he ever get back?

[olaola]

so me and this guy been in relationship for almost 1 year until out of blue he tells me he doesnt thing this will work because he is super jealous and controlling and he is loosing himself like that. He was the one that always texting me and calling me 24 hours a day, always wanted to hang out so I kinda had the upper hand because i was super sure he loved me and I was really surprise when he said he wants to break up.... Of course i start crying and asked himm to think about his decision because we can fix things..I never begged him because I have that much dignity to not act like a desperate women...He never had facebook and since we broke up he open account...I never stalekd him or eveer contacted him until 3 weeks later he unblocks me and sends me a long message on facebook saying that he loves me a lot he cant stop thinking but was for the best to stay apart.. I ignore it because in that message He did not ask me backkk btu he just confirmed the break up and mention that he loves me...i went on vacation and so did he FOR 1 MONTH ... we saw each other but we didnt talk... I recently saw that he did blocked me again on fcb ..and days later he complety delete his account... I do not understand his acts when we are not friends He blocks me , he unblocks me and blocks me again.... His birthday was 2 weeks ago I did not send him a happy birthday because i feel used and mistreated .... I care about him, and i Do love this dude butt will he ever contacted meee to get backkk and will he wish me happy birthday for this week (I changed my phone# so the only source is facebook...2 MONTHS 1/2 SINCE THE BREAK UP AND NOTHINGG...

[organizedchaos]

so me and this guy been in relationship for almost 1 year until out of blue he tells me he doesnt thing this will work because he is super jealous and controlling and he is loosing himself like that. He was the one that always texting me and calling me 24 hours a day, always wanted to hang out so I kinda had the upper hand because i was super sure he loved me and I was really surprise when he said he wants to break up.... Of course i start crying and asked himm to think about his decision because we can fix things..I never begged him because I have that much dignity to not act like a desperate women...He never had facebook and since we broke up he open account...I never stalekd him or eveer contacted him until 3 weeks later he unblocks me and sends me a long message on facebook saying that he loves me a lot he cant stop thinking but was for the best to stay apart.. I ignore it because in that message He did not ask me backkk btu he just confirmed the break up and mention that he loves me...i went on vacation and so did he FOR 1 MONTH ... we saw each other but we didnt talk... I recently saw that he did blocked me again on fcb ..and days later he complety delete his account... I do not understand his acts when we are not friends He blocks me , he unblocks me and blocks me again.... His birthday was 2 weeks ago I did not send him a happy birthday because i feel used and mistreated .... I care about him, and i Do love this dude butt will he ever contacted meee to get backkk and will he wish me happy birthday for this week (I changed my phone# so the only source is facebook...2 MONTHS 1/2 SINCE THE BREAK UP AND NOTHINGG...

 

How could anyone here possibly know if he will ever contact you, get back with you or wish you happy birthday???

 

He sounds very immature. But after 2 1/2 months of NC I wouldn't get your hopes up for anything.

[melell]

Usually after any break up the first few months are very confusing. Mixed messages, weird behavior.

 

The opening and closing of facebook accounts/blocking unblocking are signals that there is still too much energy in this situation.

 

It takes a good while for things to calm down and become peaceful again.

 

He may want you back someday, he may not, either way it won't happen until things have settled.

 

I am not sure about the above posters thoughts on 2.5 months being too late?

I personally think 2.5 months is too early for a successful reconciliation, or to early to know how things will play out.

[Nancy87]

All the ppl who post such storeis want to hear that yes, he will come back! but dear u need to kill that hope right here n NOW!

 

N u have to start working on moving on. How would it feel if u give into ur emotions and finally break NC only to find out he is ****ing another girl now. n he says he is too bz to give u anytime and that u should get lost.

How would it feel?

U think he wont ever b so rude? u never know whats hidden behind those sweet words.

 

Dumpers dump for a reason. n if he is not back yet, he probably wont.

 

Have the heart break n cry ur heart now. trust me it would be better than having ur heart broken by HIM again.

[Nancy87]

I wouldnt listen to anyone n think that NO i know he loves me, they dont know him so they cant tell me. i can be a better judge. But i only screwed myself further.

I never had trouble sleeping, but now i just cant even sleep. feel so sick to the stomach!

[qila rose]

dear olaola,we almost have the same problems.well,my ex dumped me for another girl..he also showed that he really in love with me,take care of me.he wont go a day without calling me.He left me about 4 weeks ago..and im struggling to get him back now.now,you have to just ignore him.make him think that you can live without him.Men want what they cant have..your actions not being needy and desperate are the goods step to make him want you back.its like a game honey,if they come back one day.we are the winner!

[Nancy87]

But if u keep wanting to have him back, u will destroy urself in the false hopes!

[melell]

The reality is he may come back and he may not. There are countless stories of ex's coming back after a few weeks, few months, even a few years. Some do, some don't.

 

BUT you need to be ok with either outcome, you have no control. Don't waste your time being hopeful- it is emotional suicide. But do be realistic.