kobeparker939 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Dated this girl for a couple of months, then we had an argument. Stopped talking for a month or so, then she msged apologising, saying that she didn't want to lose the friendship we'd made. Then we sort of reconciled. Caught up for a coffee, then we went to dinner and movies a week later. Since then she's been a bit quiet? Historically we'd text everyday which she initiated a lot of, then lately now, she doesn't really initiate contact anymore. I asked her to brekky last Sunday and she flaked Sunday morning because she said she was still feeling sick. She had been sick all week. I said cool no worries, and we havent spoken for the past couple of days at all. I'm not sure what to do next? I'm not really too keen on initiating contact again, as it's been me that's been doing most of the initiating lately? What is she thinking? And should I not contact her til/if she responds? She lent me a book which I've got to return to her but I'm thinking of just mailing it to her through work. What do you guys think I should do next? It's hard because I'm not sure she even wanted anything more than friendship after our first falling out but then we went to dinner and movies? I'm confused as I'm really into this girl but don't want to chase something that might not even be there.
coolheadal Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Sounds like your in the friend zone with this girl more than any other type relationship doesn't seem present. So either you stay friends with her or just move on and find a girl that appreciates you for the time and effort you have made into the relationship. This girl is not doing that, she only contacts you when the needs arises not when you want to make this more than it is. So her intent is not the same as you have hope. Could you tell us here, what was the first argument about though?
Author kobeparker939 Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 There were issues about her ex still in a pic, she had assured me that he was out of the picture Anyway she had needed a ride somewhere, so i offered to drive her later on in the week, she said she'd be fine and that her friends could take her, anyway I'd heard that it was her ex that drove her. I asked her this and she completely blew up and said she felt like she was being monitored. We stopped talking for over a month then she sent a random msg apologising, I accepted and we start texting heaps again, long phone calls etc. Then after 2 weeks , she's gone cold. 2 days no contact which is out of the ordinary. I feel like just getting in touch with her and asking her straight up what the deal with us is. Is this a bad idea? or should I just go cold as well and just continue to do my own thing?
coolheadal Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Okay that's better. She's still involved with her EX. If I was you don't make anymore connections with her. Let her come to you see what happens? Or best bet is to move on and find someone who you can trust, and be happy with this women has some issues along with EX still lurking around her life there.
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