Stealth3 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 (edited) Stay strong everybody, you will one day be healed and won't care about your ex. I wanted to thank everyone here for your support. I will still lurk around and reply to threads. I wanted to say, I am over my ex, for the first time I do not want her back in my life. For a whole month, or so since she dumped me, I wished and hope there was a chance to get back together. I would tell myself there is hope and its all possible because no red lines were broken, because our relationship wasn't toxic. Then I found out she dumped me to be with another guy who she found out was 12 years older (she is 23) and with a kid already and as a result couldn't be with him either. She said she ****ed up before started hating on me and taking it all out me, swearing and being cold as ice...something she's never done before to me. But she is not my problem now, I cannot help her anymore. She made her choice. She wanted to see if grass is greener on the other side, in the end she was nothing but some older guy's **** toy. At that point, I realized she broke my red lines and I could not possibly ever accept her back or trust her. I will not speak with her ever again and will never respond to her if she tries to contact me. I told her, I do not hate her for what she did to me, to herself. I was just disappointed. To all the guys and gals out there, ask yourself, will you want to take them back after all they've done? After breaking your red lines? You will realize that you don't, that your life is better without them. Then you can truly move on....it has to come from within, not from them, their acceptance or rejection. My advice to you is, don't look back. Don't think of them, speak of them/with them. Don't ever communicate and burn the photos and all that reminds you of them (To a reasonable extent, dont burn your house down lol). You will feel a better person and you will move on easily. The longer you keep the hope of working things out, the longer you will be stuck in the past, stuck on one person who even if they come back, you won't accept them back after finding out what they did. Nobody wants to be a second choice, nobody deserves to be a second choice. Good luck to all of you and never be someone's number 2! Edited October 8, 2013 by Stealth3 5
StrongLass Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 never be someone's number 2! Truly words to live by. The rest was good too...people just seem to have a great deal of trouble with that particular point. 1
Romaks Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Very inspirational. I keep wrestling with all of this, and I'm having more good days than bad ones nowadays, and I can see this hump I have to overcome to be completely rid of the hold she has on me. I'm progressing, but it's a very slow process. You're absolutely right. You REALLY need to think things rationally. After dumping me even after everything I've done for her, do I REALLY want her back? DO I REALLY? She never fully appreciated the lengths that I went for her, so why do I even want to deal with that again? I just can't wait to meet someone new.
Mariposa10 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 "The longer you keep the hope of working things out, the longer you will be stuck in the past, stuck on one person who even if they come back, you won't accept them back after finding out what they did. Nobody wants to be a second choice, nobody deserves to be a second choice." My favorite part! I get really worried whenever I read thread about how it's been years and some people are not still over the exes... I think the problem is that secretly maybe they keep hoping the exes will comeback... It once took me almost a year to get over an ex, but it was because I kept fantasizing, asking myself so many questions. So I'm trying to approach this breakup differently...
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 "The longer you keep the hope of working things out, the longer you will be stuck in the past, stuck on one person who even if they come back, you won't accept them back after finding out what they did. Nobody wants to be a second choice, nobody deserves to be a second choice." My favorite part! I get really worried whenever I read thread about how it's been years and some people are not still over the exes... I think the problem is that secretly maybe they keep hoping the exes will comeback... It once took me almost a year to get over an ex, but it was because I kept fantasizing, asking myself so many questions. So I'm trying to approach this breakup differently... Not to thread-jack OP, I'll comment on your post in a second... Maniposa, the reason some of the people are stuck up on exs for years is because they dont WANT to take the steps to get better. They hold on to that hope and they almost refuse to move forward. If you REALLY want to move on from such tragic events in the situation, then you have to work at it....just like everything else in life. You seem to want to, so thats a huge plus. OP, GREAT thread. Love to see stuff like this. Keep believing in this....its still early in the recovery process, so just keep those beliefs close for the times where you start to fail. Keep up the great work! 3
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