Spoonss Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Sometimes i want so bad to get what I had with my ex and not **** it up like I did with her. I dont know if in her new relationship it was as intense as we where because we where first loves and dated for 5 years and just the magnetism between us was redic. I am dating some one now too it took a while but I dont know if its suppose to feel like I did with my old girlfriend because it was off the charts love for both of us. This just seems I dont know bleh. I am hoping that I get the kind of relationship again with my first love atleast once more in my life and the next time I wont **** it up. My ex also wants to meet for coffee and catch up but we had a strong connection and I am sort of scared it will bring back a lot of feelings for both of us. Any advice?
Romaks Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 All I know is you never quite forget your first love, and usually marriages are a lot more successful with them. This is a tough situation and there's no doubt she's feeling similarly to how you are. Did she break up with you?
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Sometimes i want so bad to get what I had with my ex and not **** it up like I did with her. I dont know if in her new relationship it was as intense as we where because we where first loves and dated for 5 years and just the magnetism between us was redic. I am dating some one now too it took a while but I dont know if its suppose to feel like I did with my old girlfriend because it was off the charts love for both of us. This just seems I dont know bleh. I am hoping that I get the kind of relationship again with my first love atleast once more in my life and the next time I wont **** it up. My ex also wants to meet for coffee and catch up but we had a strong connection and I am sort of scared it will bring back a lot of feelings for both of us. Any advice? 1st-If you guys are BOTH dating someone else, WHY are you guys talking? If you still feel like you do, the you arent "friends" 2nd- This isnt fair to your new GF because you are not emotionally available. Thats pretty rough for her. Not cool 3rd-Why meet up? Whats that going to solve? She already has someone new (as do you) so other than a friendship (which isnt going to happen right now either) then why meet? Seems counterproductive... 2
Beautiful diamond Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 You guys are both rebounding and are both wrong. If you guys feel the need to meet up, yet your both in new relationships, your both not over each other. Life is to short. Dump the new girl, tell your ex you still want her, and then its up to her if she wants to live a lie. She may very well decline, but at least you aren't dragging a new girl through a bunch of nonsense. That's not right.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 You guys are both rebounding and are both wrong. If you guys feel the need to meet up, yet your both in new relationships, your both not over each other. Life is to short. Dump the new girl, tell your ex you still want her, and then its up to her if she wants to live a lie. She may very well decline, but at least you aren't dragging a new girl through a bunch of nonsense. That's not right. Somewhat right and wrong with this. You ARE dragging new girl through stuff without even knowing it. HOWEVER, do not go out and tell your ex you still want them. SHE broke up with you so of course she probably knows you still want her. Until she uters the words "______. I made a mistake. I want us to get back together again I'm sorry" then nothing has changed (even then I would be incredibly leary). Going to meet up is such a BAD idea that its comical. You SHOULD not contact her and move on from this. That's what you SHOULD do, but I doubt that you will.
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