lollipopspot Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Sarah - why doesn't the "other OW" get that stuff to his wife? You're off the hook, he doesn't know it's you. 2
Mycatsnuggles Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Sarah you told him to work on his marriage, did this mean you weren't going to see him? I'm just confused because you say he is looking for OOW 2 but if your relationship stopped then h e is looking for a new OW. Not everyone who cheats is a sociopath or chartered flawed. He writes about missing you, perhaps this is what he is really feeling. Lonely with no on to tell his feeling to now that your gone, so he went back to what he knows looking for a chance to talk about his feelings. If you really want to know set up a meeting. He may lie he may tell the truth but you'll have your answers..
threelaurels Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 I can't confront him. I can't confront him because I look crazy. And I'm not crazy. I had a hunch that he was doing stuff like this, and I was right. I have to take it for what it's worth, I have to get myself out of this mess. I have to get away from him forever because it's a waste of time, energy, and my heart. I'm sorry you're hurting. Getting away from him is the best thing you can do for yourself. Unfortunately, this kind of thing is actually pretty common among men who cheat. If you look at some of the forums devoted to cheating MM, you will find that most admit to having a "girlfriend" but also several occasional hookups on the side. Many admit that they do not tell any of the women about the others. Whether these men are the type of cheaters who frequent sites like Ashley Madison for NSA hookups or the type that claim to love the OW, I don't know. I would say they are probably a mix of both. Most OW do not suspect an OOW because they are under the mistaken idea that MM's relationship with an OOW would resemble their own relationship. The reality is that OOW are usually women the MM only meets up with occasionally for sex. They may be the ex-girlfriend who comes to town occasionally or someone MM picked out on a dating site. I think that most OW would be very shocked to see how their MM would respond in a Jerry Springer "green room" situation where a young, attractive woman hits on them and offers NSA sex with a low possibility of the BS and/or OW finding out. I don't believe "testing" a partner in a relationship is ever the right thing to do, but, if I was an OW who wanted a LTR with a MM, I would certainly want the kind of reassurance a test of loyalty would provide. The word of a known cheater and liar would not be good enough
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