ponchsox Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 (edited) We broke up mutually, she initiated it but I was also ready to end our relationship. It was hard for me because we had such a strong connection. She wanted to remain as friends but I chose not to and went NC. She didn't seen overly emotional when we broke it off. Will it her her soon? I think about her daily and miss her. Do you think she thinks about me too and misses me? Women who have dumped men they really like, can you chime in? Edited October 7, 2013 by ponchsox
Antares Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 It really depends on the girl, the relationship and the BU, I'm afraid. If you guys had a strong love, then yeah. Once the negative emotions from the BU fade, sure she'll miss you. But that doesn't mean she wants to be with you again. In the same way that you may miss being in high school, and are nostalgic for your time there, love your old HS friends, but would never ever want to relive it. And know that you really wouldn't get along with the old gang again. lol My friend just broke up with her short term bf. He was really mean to her and even though she was in love with him, she ended it a few weeks ago. Since then she has told me that she doesn't miss him one bit and that the love is completely gone. However, a guy she broke up with 2 years ago has been on her mind a lot lately. She's missed him, as a person, as a friend, for a while. She doesn't want to get back together with him...and certainly not right now seeing as she just got out of a relationship...but wanted to check up on him and see about starting a new friendship with him. Because he was a really good guy, it just didn't work out. She knows that she's currently in a vulnerable place right now and she's contacted him recently and been very respectful when doing so, knowing that HE may not want to be friends. And for me personally; mine broke up with me in May saying it wasn't working. We weren't really in the 'love stage' as it was a quick 4 monther. But 3 months after the BU, she called up and revealed that she missed me every day, cried thinking about me. Wanted to call me daily but stopped herself. AND you know what, she still didn't want to try again. Realizing that she missed me actually set me back a bit, because before I just assumed she felt nothing. And that allowed me to move on. Right now, I'm like...damn, that sucks. haha. So...again. They may miss you. Definitely. It just doesn't mean necessarily reconciliation. 1
hotpotato Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 I would assume she doesnt miss you. Go live your life and worry less about what she is feeling.
Never Again Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 I would assume she doesnt miss you. Go live your life and worry less about what she is feeling. Very much this. My ex TOLD me she missed me, but she hasn't (and most likely won't) said anything about getting back together. Hearing that she missed me did me no favors. Don't think about it, because it doesn't matter. If the dumper misses the dumpee, it's their own fault and they can stew in their own juices. They hold no sway over how you feel now, only you do.
LifeWithoutMiMi Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 I believe that if it was a long-term relationship and the love was still strong before the breakup, the dumper is likely to miss the dumpee. The fact that the breakup was mutual and she wants to remain friends makes me think that there are good chances she is missing you. However, you should keep in mind that missing someone doesn't imply that the dumper is willing to reconcile with the dumpee. It is best to move on, and improve yourself.
reddragon588 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 I'm sure the dumpers miss the dumpees. They're still humans. Missing someone and wanting them back is different however. That said, these questions serve no purpose in helping you heal. It doesn't matter whether they miss you or not.
flitzanu Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 We broke up mutually, she initiated it but I was also ready to end our relationship. It was hard for me because we had such a strong connection. She wanted to remain as friends but I chose not to and went NC. She didn't seen overly emotional when we broke it off. Will it her her soon? I think about her daily and miss her. Do you think she thinks about me too and misses me? Women who have dumped men they really like, can you chime in? probably. i'm sure most any ex that dumps someone is going to miss them and think about them. of course, you're trying to confuse "missing" with "wanting to be with" and that isn't true. missing someone doesn't mean you want to be with them AT ALL. 1
Beautiful diamond Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 I've been dumped but some could say I pushed him to it. I missed my ex for a looooooonnnnnngggggg time. I thought of him almost every moment. Of course she misses you. Though they try, dumpers can't stop themselves from feeling the pain. Either she feels it daily or is doing a whole bunch of things to distract herself. I took the cowards way the few times I dumped someone, and simply disappeared, so I missed them less because I was already done..... Now that you know this, time to stop worrying about what she is or isn't feeling. Only she knows for certain....
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