Lacsimar721 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 (edited) My breakup happened in mid August and he has not honored my NO CONTACT rule thus far, even though HE is the dumper. While it's gratifying to know he still thinks enough about me to send an email of a youtube video that "reminds him of me" or sends a nostalgic text of what we were doing this time last year, it's incredibly selfish on his part, especially since he initiated the break up and needed his own space. Why does he keep sending me this messages randomly every two to three weeks?...with no indication that he wants me back. I've told him on no uncertain terms that I can't just be friends with him and that if it's over it needs to be over and finally 3 weeks ago he admitted to things I desperately wanted him to be accountable for DURING the relationship which now is too late. Our relationship spanned 2 and half years and 2 continents. During our LDR (him in London, me in California) many sleepless nights were spent baring our souls by phone or messages that further solidified a deeper connection between us. The trips we took together were glorious, Island settings, wineries, British Isles. Although we lived so far apart...we were inseparable. I breathed him day in and out. We were LDR for a year before he moved here on a work Visa in January. He moved in with me right away, which looking back may not have been a good idea, although logistically...was the only thing to do. After three months the bickering and arguing stemming from insecurities and mis-directed anger tore us apart and wore us both down.... He has since moved out 2 months ago. Just a city away from me and at first I was devastated and heartbroken but I think the time apart does help put things into perspective. After doing a post-mortem of our relationship, dissecting what went wrong and what actually killed our relationship, I honestly think we did it to ourselves. Our own insecurities kept us from embracing what was already in our grasp I do still miss him terribly and smile when I see a message or text pop up from him but the smile fades along with the memories upon deleting another message I'll never respond to. I'm sick of the mixed signals and messages. There is no foot in/foot out with me. If he's not going to be honest with me or confused about how he feels... He needs to at least be honest with himself and let me go while he sorts himself out. (exhale) Edited October 7, 2013 by Lacsimar721 grammatical
Philosoraptor Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 It's his ego. He needs to know that you still care and that he still means something to you. Just continue to ignore it and don't feed his ego. If someone wants you back they don't send little crap, they go all out and he would be begging for your forgiveness.
thompkevin Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Yeah, he is confused himself that's why all his signals are confusing. You just need to stay on your no contact and soon enough, he will figure out what he wants.
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