bob20 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Hello everyone, nice to meet you all. So I met this girl 3 months ago at the park while playing basketball. At first it was more of a Hi/bye kind of thing,but through out the 2 wee we played a lot together and got to know each other more. I got her number and we been texting for 2 months straight every single day, meeting up at least twice a week to go out for lunch or for desserts and what not. It would always be her, her brother and his friend and me and my friend going out, thats it, no one else from the basketball group that we play with or that I met when I first met her. Anyhow after awhile of us hanging out and such, My friend came to me and told me he asked if she had a boyfriend or dating someone and she said yea, it was this dude that we played with basketball. I was pretty surprised because the way she was hitting it off with me, it was like we were this close to start dating. She would always mention how we are so "alike" and have so much in common and that she loves spending time with me and the "I swear you make my day whenever I talk to you". So I figured Ill try bringing it up whenever is a good time. After a few times we were hanging in the park, a few of her friends would ask her where her boyfriend is? and she would just look at me in an embarrassed/awkward way and then whisper to her friend "i dunno, and we juts been dating for a few weeks so keep it in the down low" expecting that I wouldnt hear that. I found out that she got with that guy 3 weeks before we got to know each other, and this was about 2 weeks after meeting her so they been together at that time for about a month. But the month later of knowing her, I can tell you it felt like I was dating her more than she was dating that guy. I would take her out to lunch during her days off, spend time bbq grilling or sightseeing and what not. I could tell the guy didnt like the fact that our relationship was close and especially how when we're around she would be all over me, hugging me and such and this is infront of the guy. I dont want to give her excuses but I could tell that she just feels bad now if she breaks things off with the guy and that it is literally her first BF, so she probably doesnt know what to do. But I mean after texting, calling each other every single day all day for two months, and atleast twice a week we are doing something fun together, she just stops texting or calling me now. I know its only been 2 days, but not sure what to do at this point. She would always mention how perfect we are for each other or "we are a match made..in the kitchen" as its an inside joke between us that we were made for each other just because how we love to eat and try new kind of foods, etc. Yesterday I texted her to see if she was going to the park, she didnt reply to me at all (text her in the morning), so I went to the park at 8 like I always do. and she was there with the group playing. When we usually see each other at the court, she would run and give me a big hug and chat a bit. But this time, it was like she didnt even know me. so for 30 minutes I didnt say hi or anything and nor did she (I was kind of pissed that the day before we had plans and she didnt confirm with me, neither did she send a text saying she cant make it or that we wont be able to go out that night, and I was annoyed that I didnt get a text back after asking about the park). But I didnt get why she wouldnt come talk to me then, So i figured it must be something. The guy must have told her to back off me or something. But after 30 min, she would start joking with me, acting very normal and how she is with me at all times. then randomly she would turn 180 degrees and act like she didnt know me. It went on like that all night and before I left she gave me a half hug and left but it was a bit weird the way she was acting. So i dont know what to do. I reallllly like this girl. I mean I have had girlfriends before and even long time relationships (5 years with someone) but for some reason i am drawn to this girl and really like her. Its funny how people come to me for relationship advice and support, but when it comes down to being a problem I have, I suck at this! haha. So what is the best thing to do? Go cold turkey or ask her out? SO fellow readers, what should I do? Should I text her asking her directly if the guy asked her to stop hanging out with me? ( we were talking about going to a concert that is coming up at the end of the month and she really wanted to go. I bought the tickets as a surprise but havent told her yet even so not sure what to do with that as well). Thanks for reading, sorry ti was so long .
ses Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Regardless of how she acts towards you she has a boyfriend and is therefore unavailable. Create some distance between y'all and just walk away from the situation. Would you want to be the side-piece of someone if she offered it? You deserve better. There are plenty of single girls out there. Let this one go.
Author bob20 Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 Yea I guess you are right. She did text me today, asking me to wish her luck for something, and asking about my day. Not sure what I should do from there. Thinking of ignoring it.
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