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Are we broken up? Is there a chance he can fall in love with me again?

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My boyfriend (or ex bf, 19y/o with job and schooling) has major issues with his dad and that he constantly nitpicked and judged him. He never told me anything about the nit picking. I nit pick and he pointed it out. I have been reflecting and called a therapist to set up an appointment for next week so I can work on myself. I am 22, great career and go to school as well.

 

He pointed it out 7 days ago, we had two good days then on Tuesday I said something to challenge him in front of his brother and when we went outside he pointed it out as nit picking (I asked him to point it out so I could know and work on it). I left his home and texted him, got the feeling something was wrong. I know I also have communication problems but I have been opening up more.

 

He said that he did not want to be with me anymore, he was no longer in love with me but he wanted to try to work it out. I agreed, his only complaint was me being nit-picky. When we were talking I guess I did it again and he flipped and totally changed his mind again. Then we talked more and we agreed to work on it and heal our selves and remain friends. He said he loves and cares about me, but I am completely in love with him all I want him to be is happy with or without me. He says he went back into a shell because of old wounds opened when i nit picked. He does not want to lead me on but he wants to try to take it slow be friends and see where it goes.

 

I show I love him everyday I express it and would do anything for him. As a person I am content and my love for him does not come with any obligations I love him for who he is and would not change a thing about him. I only want happiness for him.

 

I went and saw him a few days ago. I just have been being happy and not taking it personally because bad stuff happens but I have to be happy for myself and be healthy. He was confused because I was smiling and upbeat he said it was nice to see me this way because I have not been in a long time. We had a long talk and it was comfortable between us and he kissed me and it felt like something was still there and I asked him he said maybe and that he is just confused.

 

We have gone from hanging out every day for a hour or two to only seeing each other 2 times. We are cuddling and smiling, watching movies, going out to dinner and on Friday we went to my friends party at a club and all he kept telling me is that all he wanted was to leave and talk to me and spend time with each other. I keep mentioning a relationship or how he feels and it makes him uncomfortable so I try to stop. He says that those feeling are coming back a little bit. He still calls me baby, babe and sweetie and stuff like this.

 

Its only been a week. Do I have another chance or shot at this? What should I do? Can he fall back in love with me? Should I take more steps back I have stopped calling and texting as much, what now?

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qila rose Member

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dear,you want him back right.im just broke up with my ex about 4 weeks ago,and we still keep in touch.i want him back,.it doesnt meant that im desperate or what.just because he means everything to me and its hard to move on.i googled the guide how to make ex boyfriend come crawling back to me,its sound silly right?but i've no choice.it gives me strength.just ignore him for a while and give him space to think about..i ignored my ex and he still calling me almost everyday.,and now,im struggling for my love.

cristy Member

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Actually it just sound like he's gotta work on some issues. But know this: you cant be watching every word that comes out of your mouth. You may be able to handle it for a while but its not something you need to change, he has to work on it on his own. Theres a fine line between being supportive and trying to change who you are for someone else. I know, believe me.

Drop the relationship talk for a while. If you keep mentioning it you'll stress him out. Hang out, have a good time together. If its meant to work out it just will.

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so i backed off, i went to his house to chill as friends i did not initiate any touching or anything but he did alot. Then he turns around and dumps me today wtf

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From what you have said, this is his issue not yours. Go nc, if the guy loved you, he wouldn't be breaking up with you over 'nit picking'.

 

Ignore him. Anything else is wasting your time.

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autumnsimplified New Member

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From what you have said, this is his issue not yours. Go nc, if the guy loved you, he wouldn't be breaking up with you over 'nit picking'.

 

Ignore him. Anything else is wasting your time.

 

I am trying so hard. I just want to punch him then hug him. Two days ago was the first time that i saw him actually try to work it out between us. He said he just tried tonplay the part when i never asked him to. I just started to be okay with us being friends then he kissed me, huged me, held my hand squeezing me tight, pulling me into bed with him to cuddle. Why would he do that to me it hurts so bad. Theres more going on he just wants to be alone i think he is happy being sad and i am the easiest person to push away

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