Visforvampire544 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 My girlfriend of 8 months broke up with me yesterday saying that she's too busy with her studies now that she's at her final year of university. This comes after a period of a few weeks where we've been unable to see each other and our main arguments have been about not spending time together because she's always too tired or too busy with friends/family/studying. I feel inclined to believe this as she takes her studies very seriously and gets extremely stressed because she feels out of her depth. This then makes her feel guilty about not being able to see me often and she said she can no longer cope with it on top of everything else and that it wouldn't be fair for me to always be waiting around. And yet there's a nagging feeling inside me that wonders if it's because she lost interest. In my mind, you make time for people if you really want it. She also has a possessive mother that dominates her life which I consider a factor. But we live on the same street so I can't help but feel like she could have put more effort in if she really wanted this to work. Part of me also feels like I may have triggered this. This week I waited for her to contact me since I had tried to meet her several times before when she had got back from holiday only to be told she was too busy. I was then away for a week which meant we didn't see each other again, so I was hoping she would then take the imitative and contact me to meet once I was back as I did for her since she's Does this sound like a genuine reason or a cover up for faded feelings? I must admit I have felt very disconnected from her lately because of our lack of quality time together, which is entirely down to her.
ConstantVoyager Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 She's not into you anymore. Her lack of contact before the breakup is pretty indicative of that. Sorry you have to go through this. Take care of yourself and look forward. 1
Chi townD Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 My girlfriend of 8 months broke up with me yesterday saying that she's too busy with her studies now that she's at her final year of university. This comes after a period of a few weeks where we've been unable to see each other and our main arguments have been about not spending time together because she's always too tired or too busy with friends/family/studying. I feel inclined to believe this as she takes her studies very seriously and gets extremely stressed because she feels out of her depth. This then makes her feel guilty about not being able to see me often and she said she can no longer cope with it on top of everything else and that it wouldn't be fair for me to always be waiting around. And yet there's a nagging feeling inside me that wonders if it's because she lost interest. In my mind, you make time for people if you really want it. She also has a possessive mother that dominates her life which I consider a factor. But we live on the same street so I can't help but feel like she could have put more effort in if she really wanted this to work. Part of me also feels like I may have triggered this. This week I waited for her to contact me since I had tried to meet her several times before when she had got back from holiday only to be told she was too busy. I was then away for a week which meant we didn't see each other again, so I was hoping she would then take the imitative and contact me to meet once I was back as I did for her since she's Does this sound like a genuine reason or a cover up for faded feelings? I must admit I have felt very disconnected from her lately because of our lack of quality time together, which is entirely down to her. She's too busy...and yet she DOES have time for friends and family as well as taking a holiday.....yet, she's too busy. Uh huh.... Dude, those are some lame ass excuses. There's 24 hours in the day and even if you are busy, you're not too busy to take 15 minutes out of your day to call the person you're supposed to be in love with just to tell them that you're thinking about them. I see the writing on the wall already. She's going to string you along. She'll call you when she gets stressed out and needs an ego boost. She'll want to remain really good friends. Therefore, you need to go strict NC (No Contact). This was her choice, not yours. Therefore, she's going to have to live with her choices. She made the decision to have you out of her life. Therefore, she's too busy to even drop you a call. There's no need on her part. No need to contact you. She's too busy remember? Regardless of the reasons, she wants you out. So, she either gets 100% of you, or nothing at all. Ignore all phonecalls and texts. Block her on Facebook. Time to heal and move on. 2
Author Visforvampire544 Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 (edited) She's not into you anymore. Her lack of contact before the breakup is pretty indicative of that. /QUOTE] Yeah, we were in a bit of an awkward stalemate situation unfortunately. She immediately challenged me about it when we eventually met up after it took her a week to ask for us to meet as she expected me to be the one to ask since I had got back. Yet in my mind I had already asked the day before and the day after her holiday only to get blown out. She's too busy...and yet she DOES have time for friends and family as well as taking a holiday.....yet, she's too busy. Uh huh.... Tell me about it. Those were always the reasons she was too busy to see me in the summer, and I thought I was being unreasonable to expect to be a priority to her from time tot me. As I said, her main reasons now are the fact she's now back at university for her final year which means we'd be able to spend less time together and she can't handle the guilt of me having to wait around as she feels pressured. But I was always understanding before and just wanted to support her through it. Edited October 7, 2013 by Visforvampire544
h0000 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 even if she is busy and can not physically be woth uou, at least sje could talk to you over the phone? you should be able to still feel that she loves you? if not, I say busy is just an excuse. ultimately you have to set a ground rule..if she can't meet it then she doesn't love you.
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