Still-I-Rise Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 I went NC with my soon to be ex's entire family on the advice of one of his family members who said they were not in my corner and that I should not trust them despite their knowing my ex is a pathological liar who walked away without providing one penny of support for his family. They are generally not a loving group of people and I used to kid they were possible descendants of the Angevin clan (the family was thought to be descendants of the devil - I love Medival history). Thing is I used to chat with one of them from time to time, a male cousin. He's been calling me from time to time but wasn't available when I was calling him. He is the one who later told me "it's that girl in Virginia - that's where all your money is going." He knew about my ex's whore and that he was using family money to support her. He'd also asked if I thought my soon to be ex had a child with the girl and I said I don't know. Today, I want to call him back but I know it is not the right thing to do. Just wish it wasn't so difficult. Today is my birthday and that of my eldest daughter. I don't believe he was wishing me a happy birthday but rather touching base to see whether I have a lawyer, etc. I'm not a game player so stuff like this is tough for me -- it's stupid really. That said, MANY of the experiences I've read that relay experiences after falling off the NC wagon is keeping my hands off the phones.
Author Still-I-Rise Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 So....I called back anyway but was glad I did not get an answer I convinced myself it could be about my soon to be ex, etc., and manufactured a reason to call SOOOOO glad it didn't work out because I would've felt bummed as returning the call gave me anxiety
AnyaNova Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Yes. Don't call back. I think you know what is good, right, and proper for your own healing. You sound like you have quite a bit of fight in you. I mean that in a good way.
Reels Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 He's playing with you. But how i can advise, without knowing what you prefer? Love don't see right or wrong, it just happens.
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