stillafool Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Skela since it is only sex that you are after maybe you should let the venue be your house or his. Let him know this. Maybe he doesn't want to take you out to one of the places listed and spend money. Just a thought but since it is only sex that you are after that shouldn't be a problem.
Author skela Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 Well, neither of us are spending any money. I won tickets to an exclusive movie theatre where they serve you a meal and booze while you watch the movie and they have reclining seats. They expire next week. thought it would be fun - kind of a get to know each other better before we do the deed ;-) I haven't bothered contacting him again since he asked to confirm the location and when the tickets expire.
Author skela Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 Not going to lie...I am disappointed. I've been out of the dating scene for awhile so it took a lot for me to ask him out. and he was pretty hot. LOL Hopefully I don't run into him when I have to take my car to be serviced that could be slightly awkward.
Author skela Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 I look fantastic :-). I am a fitness model, so spend time in the gym, at the track, at the pool, eat well. 1
FitChick Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 He thinks you are too good for him, a lowly car salesman. Believe him! A friend was in this same situation, same ages, too. She was gorgeous, he hit on her, they dated, moved in together and he was a total arse. She was newly divorced, lonely, and the type who always needs a man in her life. You can do better, especially if you just want to get laid.
Author skela Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 LOL Fitchick. I just don't get why he bothers asking for more info about date when he's not interested. Doesn't make sense. Maybe he's scared
thefooloftheyear Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 45 year old attractive fitness model and he's not responding to your advances? He's a homo, no worries No other possible reason Go to your local gym. I'm not gay but there should be tons of great looking dudes there who would go crazy for an attractive older woman. I work out a lot myself and I would not only have sex with but I would exclusively date a woman like yourself I know its hard for some guys to fathom, but quality guys that have options dont stick their dicks in any hole on the street(no disrespect to the OP). Maybe he has better options? Maybe he doesnt find her to be so awesome.. Maybe he doesnt want someone old enough to be his mom. maybe he;s turned off by her "forwardness"..I gotta be honest...Most of the women ive run into over the years who were aggressive are usually the same one's who will roll over for any swinging dick out there...Its not that appealing to a lot of guys. The most hilarious point of this thread is that if the genders were reversed, there would be a pack of women 30 pages deep ripping the guy to shreds...There wouldnt be any back slapping and high fives.. Again, I mean no disrespect to the OP, just speaking in general here.. TFY 3
thefooloftheyear Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 an attractive 45 year old fitness model is FAR removed from "any hole on the street" Attractiveness is a subjective criteria...I wasnt referring to the OP, as I had pointed out several times. TFY
Author skela Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 No, I don't consider myself just any hole on the street. Also, this is the first guy that I have asked out in a long while - I have hardly dated since my divorce. Just thought I deserved some fun. If that's what he was feeling then he should have just said no instead of playing games. Maybe he's a different type of hole! 1
Author skela Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 Also, he's the one that told me he found me very attractive and was flirting with me as well. If he hadn't given any signals I would never have asked him out.
Skyraider829 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I look fantastic :-). I am a fitness model, so spend time in the gym, at the track, at the pool, eat well. This chap is a FOOL. I'd slap the guy if I found he didn't take someone like you up on the opportunity. What a ding-dong... 1
Mascara Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 A movie? Why on earth do you think you'd get to know each other better at a movie, where you have to sit in silence staring ahead for 2 hours? Movies are for established couples. And therein lies the problem. You've suggested something coupley. 1
Author skela Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 Well I suggested a movie because we had a long talk about TV shows and we watched the same ones so I said hey have his gift certificate since we have the same taste in shows prob have the same taste in movies and it's avid theatre where they have a lounge then u go I to the theatre and they serve u booze and food. So it's not a typical movie date. Bad move?
Mascara Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I know those kind of cinemas. It's still a movie date. Also, it's a bit too much "taken care of". Use that voucher for a night out with a girlfriend. Let HIM wine and dine you before he sixty-nines you. Honestly, you're suggesting too much. When he contacted you, you shouldn't have been seen to put so much thought in it. It should have just been "I don't know... why don't you let me know when you've come up with something?" All of this advice is because you're only looking for sex. If it was someone looking for a relationship I wouldn't suggest this approach. 1
Author skela Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 Well I am over it and I'm gonna invite a girlfriend instead. :-)
tlegend Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I would love to give my 2 cents, but seeing as I do posts in between doing things at work, I find it difficult to want to read through 5 pages of posts pertaining to .....getting laid. Seriously, you're a woman, and apparently you have a high opinion of your attractiveness. If this guy doesn't want to fill you, go to a bar, look sexy, and take your pick...., or a club, or a Starbucks.....whatever floats your boat.
Author skela Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 I wasn't picking up random guy from the street. This is a guy who was flirting with me. He told me he found me attractive. I have been raising my kids on my own and thought hey u have been working hard and putting everyone else first for years. Have some fun. I don't think I'm miss American But I think I'm attractive.
Author skela Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 That's why I didn't just say hey let's go to bed. I thought go out have a fun night and see where things go
tlegend Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 That's why I didn't just say hey let's go to bed. I thought go out have a fun night and see where things go My point is that you can literally do this with anyone, it isn't limited to this one guy. Just because he was the one that happened to flirt with you at the time that your V is craving the D doesn't mean that he has to be the guy that gets to entertain you. It really shouldn't take this much work to get a cute guy into bed. Seriously.
Mascara Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 OP, I actually think you'd like more out of this than sex. I'm not expecting you to agree with me, but there it is.
Author skela Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 Ur are right! But no, I'm not going out looking. Just gonna go back to being a mom and working out. Someone will come along. Thanks! 1
ascendotum Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 His point is that you're focusing way too much on this one guy forget about it. You're an attractive woman in good shape. U can go anywhere and have any guy u want. Why focus so much on one guy u don't even know? She's just started to dip her toe in the water again, after being in single mom hibernation mode for a while. This young attractive salesman coming on to her I suspect ignited feelings & he was attractive and he was coming on to her. For her it was an easy opportunity and what seemed like a sure fire no risk of getting knocked back or coming off as easy play. She's focusing on him because he showed a lot of interest in her and got her tingly but then seems to be fumbling around when it comes to setting the date. Its natural to get frustrated especially since this is the first time she's asked a guy out in ages. He's no homo if he went out of his way to contact her and flirt on the phone for a number of hours. This guy if he's young attractive & confident could be juggling a few young girls and or prospects currently. Who knows. Like someone else said maybe the coupley movie date nite put him off a little and maybe he doesn't realize all she wants is strictly fun.
Mascara Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Sweetie, if ANY woman is just looking for sex she can post an ad on a dating site and 50,000 men will be hitting on her in a heartbeat. (Actually OP, that might not be a bad idea if you are just looking to get laid) 1
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