Kylie1 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 I met a guy online 2 weeks ago. We were going to meet up but he didn't come out. So he begged me all day yesterday. We did talk about meeting up but didn't set up time said around 7 on last Friday. On Saturday we talked about it vaguely then I said let's go with the flow which he took is as maybe ill meet you. Then neither of us checked on each other and I just went to the place we talked about without letting him know. Thinking he would just text me or be there.. So tell me if he is right or wrong. He says he didn't stand me up and everything. He texted me all day long..saying I should give him a second chance. Should I??
mikei880 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 If I made plans with someone too meet and they didn't show, that would be a red flag. If she gave a good explanation why I'd try to set up another date. If I got the run around again I'd say I wish you luck, take care and go NC. IMHO smoke is being blown up your rear, you need to decide if this is acceptable behavior for a dating prospect........
Feeorin Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 You both should have been more specific."Going with the flow" does not tell me its set in stone. I probably wouldnt have gone either. Or at least would have messaged or called confirming the arrangement. 1
KatZee Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 (edited) Has communication really dissolved into this??? What does, "lets just go with the flow" even mean here? You either make plans, or you don't. There were no plans made here. Then you just decided to show up without saying a word?? Do you really think that's how plans happen? A plan is: "Let's meet at such and such place, at such and such time." Then either the day before, or the day of, you reach out to that person and you say, "Are we still on for dinner/drinks/event at 7pm?" I'm really confused why you would just say "lets go with the flow" then go somewhere without letting him know, and just operate under the assumption he would be there or he would reach out to you?? If there is no communication between people, this is what happens. No. He did not stand you up at all. Edited October 7, 2013 by KatZee 2
mammasita Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 You sound like you're playing little elementary school games. Total gray area - wait, not even gray......gray would be more clear than what just happened
soccerrprp Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 I met a guy online 2 weeks ago. We were going to meet up but he didn't come out. So he begged me all day yesterday. We did talk about meeting up but didn't set up time said around 7 on last Friday. On Saturday we talked about it vaguely then I said let's go with the flow which he took is as maybe ill meet you. Then neither of us checked on each other and I just went to the place we talked about without letting him know. Thinking he would just text me or be there.. So tell me if he is right or wrong. He says he didn't stand me up and everything. He texted me all day long..saying I should give him a second chance. Should I?? I don't know about who's wrong, but it doesn't sound like either of you are really that interested in each other...
tlegend Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 So tell me if he is right or wrong. He says he didn't stand me up and everything. He texted me all day long..saying I should give him a second chance. Should I?? If he think he didn't stand you up, why is he texting you all day long saying you should give him a second chance? My 2 cents.
KatZee Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 If he think he didn't stand you up, why is he texting you all day long saying you should give him a second chance? My 2 cents. Based on how the situation went down, my assumption is that she flew off the handle and told him off, and behaved irrationally. That would be the reason why he would be asking for a "second chance." He doesn't think he stood her up, he already said as much. I think OP is being ridiculously over dramatic and lacks communication skills. 1
tlegend Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Based on how the situation went down, my assumption is that she flew off the handle and told him off, and behaved irrationally. That would be the reason why he would be asking for a "second chance." He doesn't think he stood her up, he already said as much. I think OP is being ridiculously over dramatic and lacks communication skills. That is one perspective that could very well be true. I also am a guy, and if I am asking for a second chance, its either because of what you said, or because I know I ****ed up.
KatZee Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 That is one perspective that could very well be true. I also am a guy, and if I am asking for a second chance, its either because of what you said, or because I know I ****ed up. If you knew you f.ucked up, then why would you flat out deny f.ucking up? That doesn't even make sense. Read her first post. Even though he's asking her to give him a second shot, he doesn't think he did anything wrong. I think she's just blowing it out of proportion and making this guy kiss her a.ss even though he didn't do anything wrong. It's a complete lack of communication here, nothing more, nothing less.
tlegend Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 If you knew you f.ucked up, then why would you flat out deny f.ucking up? That doesn't even make sense. Read her first post. Even though he's asking her to give him a second shot, he doesn't think he did anything wrong. I think she's just blowing it out of proportion and making this guy kiss her a.ss even though he didn't do anything wrong. It's a complete lack of communication here, nothing more, nothing less. Do cheaters ever admit they actually cheated on you? Usually, no. Even when you know with 100% certainty and ask to their face, they usually still deny it. So theres that.
deathandtaxes Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Way too passive! WAY! Throw out a day, a time, and a place. See what he says.
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