BlahBlah28 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Okay, long story short, I'm going travelling soon and I'm meeting up with this girl i like. She pretty much knows I'm interested in her, think she might be keen on me, but she's kinda really shy so it's hard to tell for now. So i wanna kind of hang out for a week or so and catch up, then take her on a date. But like i say, she's shy so i don't want to come on too strong, but i also don't want to come on too weak either and get "Friendzoned", lol. So i was thinking, a walk through some botanical gardens of some sort in the evening with some green tea and chatting(she loves gardens and tea) followed by a nice meal at a restaurant with a romanticy setting. If all goes well and there's a sparkle in her eye, I'm gonna go for some hand holding upon leaving the restaurant and a single good night kiss when i drop her home. Is this the right amount, surely this shows enough that I'm really interested in her and surely not too strong? Is the date too soon maybe? It's just i really don't want to stuff this up, lol! Any other suggestions? Thanks
Philosoraptor Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Don't overthink it, be adaptable, and just do what feels right. Dating is easy once you stop thinking and trust yourself. 2
ThomasD Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Like "Philosoraptor" said, put a little thought into things but don't construct your plans so rigidly that both of you have to follow a script. And the better you understand and respect your partner, the more confident you can be to "trust yourself". I never had many "first dates" but I certainly recall one in particular. It happened on the day we first laid eyes on each other. Her personality (like my own) is definitely on the quiet-and-shy end of the spectrum. I was quite pleased with how willing she was to hold hands - almost like she thought, "Well, it's about time you touched me!". And at the end of our very first date, she kissed. Not the kind of perfunctory kiss she might allow out of obligation, but she REALLY kissed. One year plus two weeks after that first kiss we kissed in our wedding service, and are still kissing over 39 years later. Now I have to admit that we had been writing to each other, sight unseen but real letters on real paper, for over 3 months before we met in person and had that first date. So we were already quite personally acquainted, and "in like" with each other, before we met. Don't overlook that factor. Wishing you the best of luck! p.s. - How old are you two?
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