MyLife Posted December 2, 2004 Posted December 2, 2004 last night i decided that i no longer wanted to be with my ex i told her this was over, she was happy about it after 4 years together she didnt say why or anything she was and is just fine about it, now i broke up with her because i couldnt deal with it anymore, she wasnt affectionate, she was selfish, and didnt even want to have sex with me. the last time was almost 2 months now. i couldnt deal with that, i am not a cheater so i wasnt about to go out and cheat but i feel that when you love someone even if you're not in the mood for it you would try to satisfy that person right? i did it many many times. i made sure she was happy in everyway i just dont understand why she doesnt pay attention to me, shows me any love, any affection or anything. all she did was complain about how she wasnt attractive to me because i asked for sex all the time but I WASNT GETTING ANY, she said i turned her off everytime i asked, so i stoped asking to see if anything change and nothing did. so whatever sex is just a small part of out relationship. now she has cheated on me several times, more than once. she denies it ofcourse but i have the prove she has. whatever. i am hurt over this whole thing but i am strong and i know i can get over it in time not just yet. i am hurt and angry at the same time, i have no idea how to deal with this emotions. i have no friends or family close by, i live alone and really dont do much but watch tv i am scare, i dont know if my being alone is going to hurt more than dealing with her. i am so tired and i just want to run, i dont know what to do to get her attention so i started the no contact just to see if she cares a bit or what. does the no contact work? what is it like when it does? has anyone experience it. thank you all for reading
hurtingandconfused Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 i live alone and really dont do much but watch tv I guess it's time for a change eh? Get a gym pass, go to gym and meet new people. Or take walks at the local park, and of course meet other new people. Just get out and do things. Remember you stay home because YOU want to. does the no contact work? It works 100%. By not having any contact with her, you will heal a lot quicker. what is it like when it does? You will feel relieved, strong, confident, and victorious. In the end, you'll realize that she wasn't worth your heartache.
butterfly4me Posted December 3, 2004 Posted December 3, 2004 How long has it been since you've spoken to her? I think relationships end for many reasons, and sex is definitely one of them. If she wasn't interested in sex with you there was definitely a reason! Was she satisfied? Oh well, just keep it together and do something more than watch tv. Talk on the phone--get out with friends, and if you have none, make some--even online friends help. How are you doing? Since I haven't talked to my ex, I really have forgotten about him. I think if he would have called, I would have fallen back into his promises again, and then we would have been back down that ugly road that we were in in our relationship. So, look at it this way, since my ex hasn't called me, it has made me think about him less. Hope this helps!
ViewFromAbove Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 Don't be scare. Taking rejection is a pale comparison to learing to let go. But hanging on to the known universe that makes you very unhappy no matter how comfortable it feels (versus venturing out to the unknow) may cause you to miss out on real happiness. Step out of your comfort zone because you will never know what you will find out there. Don't be scare....take a chance on finding real happiness.
Babyribs Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 I know its hard to let go, i have been in and out of a relationship with this girl who treats me the same way you are being treated, LET GO. do something to keep you busy, do things that makes you happy, buy things and enjoy everything you have to offer and before you know it, someone special will show up. dont get me wrong i just broke up with my ex and it has been really hard, but i cant wait for the next day to come because everyday that passes will make me feel a lot better. i hope this helps
DoggyDog Posted December 10, 2004 Posted December 10, 2004 I am going thru the same thing...I got dumped 2 wks now....There has been NC from him which tells me he doesn't want me anymore...Don't have to tell you how that hurts me...but I truly know in my heart that it's better for both of us. He couldn't commit to me (MM) and felt he could no longer continue our LDR (20 yrs).. Yes, I'm along and don't have any true friends (only acquaintances)...He was who I depended on and I know I got real "needy"....maybe that too caused his leaving me...but each day I keep telling myself I will be "strong"..I think about it everyday still...but am trying to keep afloat and survive each day passing. With Christmas coming too, that will hurt because he was "My Santa"...my everything.... Be strong and try to say that you don't want someone who doesn't want you. I just hope he is hurting....I truly think he his as he told me once...but then, he has a W to deal with too....and that is his life now....Where he choose to be. I can't make someone stay with me and neither can you....We don't want that do we? NO...So if you work...try to be happy there...It will spread within, I promise. L DD
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