What is an acceptable amount of contact time that makes you feel comfortable?

[blue963]

I keep running into difficulty in my head where I feel like I am being blown off and taken for granted. It switches from he cant get enough of connection time (chat and video chat) or I feel like im lucky if we connect 30 minutes during an entire week.

 

This starts the whole thing of making me wonder if I am being childish or that he is being unfair. It then kick starts the whole process of thinking I should just end this because I feel that Im being taken for granted. Something that is very hard to do.

[bentleychic]

It really depends on the day of the week (weekends are generally not as quick to respond) as well as what we both have going on (work, kid stuff, driving, etc.) There's no hard and fast rule, really. I do expect daily contact (non-negotiable), but I've never had a time frame in which he needed to respond for X, Y, Z to happen.

 

I couldn't and wouldn't deal w/ only 30 minutes a week unless he was on vacation that entire week or something. Even then I'd expect more text response than that.