Paulie Posted December 2, 2004 Posted December 2, 2004 There's this girl at work, who just started working here, she's beautiful. Moreover, I just really like her. She seems to have all the same values, etc, as me. She's 24, I'm 28. She said that she only has had 1 boyfriend her whole life, and that she DOES NOT HAVE A BOYFRIEND NOW. The other girls in the office have told me that they think she has a "thing" for me. "Melissa" has asked me to ride with her from the office to company functions a couple of occasions...under the guise that "she didnt know how to get there" She calls me a few times a week to ask work-related questions. I assumed that she really liked me. So....one friday afternoon last week, I found out that she and I were the only two people in our office (we're outside sales representatives) that were working late. So, wanting to come off real natural, I called her up and asked her if she wanted to meet up briefly for a drink or whatever after she was finished. She said yes, and that she would call me after she was done her appointment. She called me alright, and told me that she was done her appt, and was now HOME. I was pretty discouraged, and confused. I took the hint, and assumed that maybe all the positive signals I had gotten were wrong. One of our mutual friends in the office, "Tara" called me yesterday to ask me if I still like "Melissa". I, figuring that the information was just going to go right back to Melissa, said "I DID have a thing for her, but then after she didnt take me up on my offer to stop out for a drink, I assumed she wasnt interested. Im confused. I realy, really like this girl. But I dont want to get hurt. I dont want to ask any of the other girls in the office again if she likes me or whatever, because its childish, and it would just get fed back to melissa. What should I do????????????????? Paulie
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 2, 2004 Posted December 2, 2004 Originally posted by Paulie One of our mutual friends in the office, "Tara" called me yesterday to ask me if I still like "Melissa". I, figuring that the information was just going to go right back to Melissa, said "I DID have a thing for her, but then after she didn't take me up on my offer to stop out for a drink, I assumed she wasn't interested. I'm 99.9999999% sure that Tara is going to tell Melissa what you said. When a woman hears the emphasis on "did" it translates as ".. but I don't anymore". It could also be a case of the "He's Just Not That Into You" curse, where a woman translates "lets meet for drinks" into "he just wants to get me drunk and have sex with me, but not date me". Unfortunate, and often not true. Time to salvage it if you can. Leave everyone else out of it from now on. Walk up to Melissa next time you see her and say "Maybe we got off to a bad start. Can we try again? I'd love to take you out to dinner." And go from there.
tattoomytoe Posted December 2, 2004 Posted December 2, 2004 quit playing the stupid games! if you are interested, take her out....Although sibce you work with her i would be hesiatnt!
alphamale Posted December 2, 2004 Posted December 2, 2004 Paulie: Do NOT under any circumstances date or mess around with women you work with. You are messing with your livelihood. Now if you work for a big company and the person you want to ask out works in a different dept in a different bldg then that is OK. But don't date or ask out women you see everyday at work. RULE # 1
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