dasher Posted December 2, 2004 Posted December 2, 2004 Hi, I work with this girl who talks to me alot. Im a shy kid when it comes to girls so I dont say to much to her but when im working and I look over at her she is looking at me. She also says bye to me when I leave the store and im really not sure if she likes me or she is just being friendly. Im not sure if she has a b/f but I was thinking about asking her out sometime. Any suggestions would be great.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 2, 2004 Posted December 2, 2004 Hopefully you smile when she looks at you! The hardest thing for a shy person is to make and hold eye contact - trust me, I know. Its even harder to smile. Smile at her. Look at her often. That's how we know you boys like us. A guy who is interested looks often and smiles when he catches our eye. Keep it up and see how it goes. Then work up the nerve to make an excuse to put yourself into her proximity and say hello - mention the weather, how much you like/hate work/your boss/etc - and get a conversation going. Any conversation. Eye contact and body language say more than your words do. Look at her, smile and face her with your body. Lean toward her ever so slightly - just barely. Don't cross your arms and close yourself off. Think of it this way: open posture = open mind/heart. Be nice, polite and whatever. After a few conversations like that - begin to notice if she's doing the same thing to you. Is she playing with her hair? Smiling? Licking her lip (not sexually or overdone - just a slight thing)? Is she facing you when she talks to you? Leaning in slightly? Crossing her arms? Watch closely for what goes on underneath the conversation. If she seems open to you, then ask her if she wants to go meet somewhere to hang out or something - ice cream/coffee/mall/bookstore, etc - a nice open public place where you can walk around and learn about each other a little more.
Pocky Posted December 2, 2004 Posted December 2, 2004 Have a few casual conversations with her before asking her out. Ask her what she's doing one weekend to see if she mentions she's going out with a boyfriend. Since you work with her, I'd find out first if she's even available before I'd hit on her. May be hard to see her every day after being rejected - especially if you're shy.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 2, 2004 Posted December 2, 2004 Yep, definitely find out about a b/f early on. I would hope that she would tell you pretty early on. Usually a girl will say though - she'll drop it in a casual conversation. Nothing says that you have to stop talking to her completely though if she says "I have boyfriend". The dating option will be locked out, certainly - but look at it this way: if nothing else, you made a friend at work to talk to.
Author dasher Posted December 2, 2004 Author Posted December 2, 2004 Thanks I will try some of those things
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