eric85 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 I have a few other threads on here in regards to my current break up. Long story short I have children with my ex so NC will not be able to remain forever. As of right now, I speak to her mother and grandmother and pick up my daughters from them and plan on keeping it that way until we need to speak about birthdays,xmas, or important things to need to be discussed. I love her with all my heart still and not an ounce of me wanted this break up and I find it hard to believe still that she wanted this. We were engaged and together 4 yrs. I raised her daughter as my own since she was 1 and also had another daughter with her. Her first daughter is now 4 and calls me dad and everything . Anyway my question is when in NC is it not ok to speak to her mother about how I feel? These last few months her mother and I have became close and talk/text daily. She knows how hurt I am over the break up. Her mom told me that my ex just needs time to get herself together and that we may work things out. I really hope so. This is a woman I could not wait to marry and would have gladly spent every last min. of my life with her. I have never loved someone close to as much as her.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 No, do not use the mom as a go-between. That's unfair to the mom to put her in that position and your ex will think you are trying to manipulate her and get inside information. As for the rest of it, just talk about the children and children only.
Author eric85 Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 No, do not use the mom as a go-between. That's unfair to the mom to put her in that position and your ex will think you are trying to manipulate her and get inside information. As for the rest of it, just talk about the children and children only. I haven't been trying for any inside information. Sometimes though her mom will ask how I'm holding up, since being dumped. I have been telling her the truth and hope she gets that between us. I dont want my ex to know how bad I'm struggling. But your right, I am going to just discuss my children and thats it.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 I haven't been trying for any inside information. Sometimes though her mom will ask how I'm holding up, since being dumped. I have been telling her the truth and hope she gets that between us. I dont want my ex to know how bad I'm struggling. But your right, I am going to just discuss my children and thats it. Not saying you are, but your ex will think that you are trying to get that information or trying to use the mom to manipulate her. I think you are on the right track in keeping all communication about the children.
Author eric85 Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 I'm going through a real struggle with this. Her mom once again called me yesterday to see how I was doing and we talked for like an hour. I don't think she will tell my ex we are speaking about this stuff, well I hope not. Her mom gives me good advice but its hard because she also leaves me with that little hope with things like "well you two might work it out" or ''just give it a little bit of time". Normally with a breakup I wouldnt care but we have so much together. Not only a child together but a child I have raised with her since age 1 who's father has never been in the picture. Why can't she see how much I care and want this?
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