on getting contacted after years of NC

[I-Love-Liberty]

I need some advice on this situation.

 

Some back story (I'll keep it brief because it's details aren't relevant to the

present situation),

 

my ex and I dated for 6 years, we lived together and were always happy and in love, rarely got in fights, really loved being with each other and pursuing our dreams together.

 

We broke up because I developed some self-destructive issues with drugs, the first time she found out she still stuck with me as I tried to get clean, but then I relapsed and hid it from her. After this happened again she had enough, but didn't completely break it off right away, we lived separately for awhile but would still get together on occasion until that slowly faded away too and she started dating someone else. I started dating someone else pretty quick too and we stopped talking all together. Even though I was in another relationship I still loved her.

 

So FFW to this year, after 3 years of NC, I've been clean for a year and a half, and have done A LOT to improve myself and my life. I know without a doubt I'm a better person today than I've ever been. Over the 3yrs on NC, I would think still think about her and miss her and knew I loved her, but I moved on with the assumption I'd never see or speak to her again. It hurt, but is was the reality of the situation and I got on with bettering my life.

 

So then, she emailed me a few months ago and told me she has forgiven me and hoped I was doing well and that she was sorry about everything too.

 

I replied back saying I was happy she said that and that I thought about her sometimes and hoped she was doing well too.

 

Then last month she emailed me again and wanted to know if I wanted to meet up. I didn't answer for a few days and she emailed again saying she'd really like to see me.

So, I finally wrote back and said yeah I would.

 

So a few weeks later we met up. Before we saw each other I didn't tell her anything about what I've been doing, so I think she was really happy and surprised to see how much I've changed and how good I'm doing. We had a really good time, I was really happy to see her too. We didn't talk about the past or much deep personal stuff. Just had a lot of fun.

 

Since then we've talked a few times through texts and once on the phone, the convo is usually pretty short and friendly, but doesn't get too deep.

 

In a couple days we're going to meet up again and get drinks.

 

The problem I'm having here is;

WTF does she want? and should I be blunt and just ask her outright as to why she is wanting to see me?

 

Or should I just approach it as a new relationship and see what happens?

 

I still have feelings for her and I would be open to starting a new relationship as two new people.

[Romaks]

That's plenty of time to be able to have a second chance and have a good reconciliation. You've obviously gotten rid of all of the things that made your relationship fail before, and you're just a better person, so I don't see why not.

 

Clearly she's interested in you, and she's happy that you've changed. This shows character, courage, and strength - all admirable qualities. I say, sweep her off her feet!

[JoelBarish]

Yeah just treat it as a new relationship and see where it goes. Enjoy it

[I-Love-Liberty]

alright thanks both of ya!