Ex girlfriend contacted me after 3 years... Back to no contact already? *long story*

[Cupidshotme]

So recently my ex girlfriend (on and off for about 5 years) contacted me on what would have been our 8th anniversary.We had no contact for the past 3 years and made plans to meet up for drinks.So i meet up with her and find out she made additional plans for us to go meet up with her male friends (a gay couple) to all chill together. I automatically got a weird vibe because i thought it would have just been us two catching up on the past few years but just went along with everything because i was still happy to see her.we danced , and got drunk and when the night was coming to an end she drove me home...she invited me to her birthday party she was having soon and i agreed to go.

 

2 weeks later she sends me the info about the party and i show up alone (it wouldve been weird to bring a date to my ex girls party ... Right?). Once i was there i played the background since she had to host the party and thank,talk to everybody that came. I can tell she was happy i showed up by how she talked and looked at me.i left the party several times to go outside for air. Around 6am i told her i was leaving and told her bye.We had been drinking all night so at that point i was pretty drunk.once again i left and attempted to catch a cab home.Before i got one,i texted her "to bad i couldnt stay happy b day" in which she replied "you shouldve stayed, you can come back!" I agreed to comeback if she would come down stairs to smoke with me and she did.

 

we go back up to the hotel room where most people are leaving and she tells them goodnight and goes to take a shower.she comes back in hr pajamas and tells me to come into her room and shuts the door behind us. We lay there (in her bed)for a while drunk talking and i go to touch her leg.she didnt move away but she moves on her back so i stopped touching her. We fall asleep and when i woke up i again tell her goodbye and to call me.2days later i text her and ask her to chill again and she says we should "stay in touch because her week is going to be hectic. I got offended and told her nevermind and she says that im to much.we agree to "stay in touch".

 

That was a week ago and i need to know what i should do. Should i just wait to she hits me up and make new plans or should i ignore her when she texts or call me?

 

 

Please keep in mind that we consider each other to be first loves and im not sure how she feels about me now or what her intentions are.... advice?

Edited October 7, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Mariposa10]

Are you still in love with her? Why did you guys break up in the first place?

[Cupidshotme]

Yes i do still love her... We broke up over a nasty argument based off of some nude pics i found of her (i didnt know about)... but i didnt think it would take 3 years away from us.

[Waz]

Hmm i find that confusing.

There could be many scenarios.

If i were you i wouldn't initiate a contact, i would wait for her to reach out.

If she wants to reach out again, she will, since your last meeting was ok, don't forget that.

Also another reason i wouldn't contact her is because she said "her week is going to be hectic". If she thinks of you when she has problems, don't bother.

From your long story short post, it seems like she's trying to be friends with you, but you said earlier that you are still in love with her.

 

Totally no contact.