Bellaisle23 Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I'm going to try to keep this short and sweet as possible so i'll bullet the main points. My recent boyfriend broke up with me after 3 months. It shocked not only me but my friends and family because he spent 2 months trying to win me over and there where no signs it was coming it was like an over night decision. Even my mother wanted to reach out and talk to him in terms of maybe convinceing him to rethink things. she (on her own) texted him and he said his feelings have changed and needs to get his life together. After some time most of us came the conclusion that he was stressed over not being financially stable and figured he would dump me before i decided to dump him (which id never do) I was always catering to him (cooking for him doing nice things) maybe he felt like he couldn't measure up. 1. I tried to bargain with him but he said for me to move on 2. I did just that meaning i no longer contacted him 3. 8 days later he sends me a late night text 4. (him) Hey how are you. sorry for bothering you 5. i was an A** for leaving you, you were really good to me. I don't know what's wrong with me 6. I guess the stress of not having my life together and everything was part of it. 7. I got upset that when i tried to reach out after that text he wasn't responsive he said he's not trying to lead me on and he was sorry to have made it worse so i got angry asking what was the whole point of contacting me. I already knew i was good to him and i already knew he was an a** 8. he is a member at the gym i work at and I had decided to pay his monthly bill 9. He found out and contacted me 10. sorry to bother you he says but did you pay my bill 11. yes i said, i felt responsible that you're going out of your way to not do your normal routine you've come so far with your weight loss i shouldn't be the reason to stop that. 12. He says i just didn't want to make your day crappy by being there. 13. You're making things awkward by being awkward i told him 14. I really appreciate what you did for me he texted 15. I later tried again to be civil and ask his opinion on something but he was apathetic about it normally i have np moving on but idk if its because i've grew tired of dating other people or something inside of me is saying to just wait a little while because he'll soon realize he should have never dumped me.
Ireallydontknow Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 So keep moving on. There is no reason to stick around with someone who is just going to probably break up at you the first time there is a difficult problem in the relationship. Quit using each other for comfort, because as soon as he finds someone new, you are no longer on his mind. You could of used that time to move on. Let him find himself, but don't cater to his emotional AND financial stability. Screw his gym, let him get fat! 1
jdt5674 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 It sounds like he really doesn't know what he wants. It there are no outside circumstances affecting his decision making, I say you move on. If there are other issues, give it some time and let him decide what he wants. That doesn't meant that you should let one door close while you wait for another to reopen.
Beautiful diamond Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 No, he does not regret it. He knew exactly what he was doing. He wants to dump you but still be friendly? See how that doesn't make sense. He knows you are into him still and he can't let that power over you go. I think you are far to devoted to him. You should not be speaking to him let alone paying his bills. He would never say it but he is thinking to himself "I just dumped her but I can come back whenever I please." You are setting yourself up to be used REPEATEDLY! 3
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