BarOfButter Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I asked a girl for her number, we texted for a while, and we went on a pretty nice first date. On the first date, she offered to pay for half of everything, and referred to me as her friend. We did make a great connection with each other. After that we continue to text and make future plans of meeting up. However, she keeps inviting me to things where she's hanging out with a whole bunch of her friends. So does she see me as just a friend? If i wanted to be up front with her, would I directly say that I considered our date a date or is there a specific way I should treat her if I saw us as more than friends? How could I ensure I'm not stuck in this friendzone? I guess that involves one on one time?
TB Rhine Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Imagine the Debbie Downer "wah-WAH" noise being played here... you are in the friend zone. All signs point to... well, I'm not sure what, but certainly not nookie. If I were you, I'd avoid hanging out with (read: probably ending up paying for) her and all her friends and only hang out with her one-on-one. If you do manage to pin her down to a date, and she actually shows up, go for the kiss early and often.
crederer Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Well....it could be either. You're not official so maybe she's thinking that you'd be weirded out if she introduced you as her bf, when you're not official yet. Or you could be friendzoned...Play it out. Nut up and don't be her buddy, but a man interested. Take control. It may be futile, but hell, it's only time wasted or gained. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 I don't know. Try to kiss her and you'll have your answer.
Eggplant Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Don't just text her. Dial her and speak. Invite her on a date.
Author BarOfButter Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 I've been doing my best to not be playing the role of one of her girlfriends: not texting her back right away, trying to keep the conversation about knowing about her and not about random day to day gossip, being flirty during conversation, planning only one on one dates, not being so immediately available whenever she needs me. But what if she's been coming to me about her life problems and concerns? Does that mean I'm friendzoned? And if she's coming to me stressed about what happened at work and such, what do I do without looking like a mean person, yet not burying me in the friend zone, since I do want to help her thru the hard time.
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