ponchsox Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I dated a 32 year old single mom who's ex abandoned her two years ago. She told me after we started dating she still feels jaded towards love. Should I have taken that as a huge warning sign and ejected? Like she would never fully give love to me in return, but just had me around?
GuyInLimbo Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Two words: red flag. Third: RUN Lots of questions here. Has been in therapy since her divorce? Been in any other relationships? Is she still angry or has she been able to move on?
ThorntonMelon Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Everyone is different in how they handle it. I was able to handle it right away. Others can't deal with their feelings about the loss of the old relationship. There's no one good set of advice here. I think all you can do is make sure words and actions match up and that you keep the lines of communication open. And protect your heart as best you can.
2.50 a gallon Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 One just never knows. About 20 years ago I met this total knock out, blonde with long legs who had just turned 40, but still looked like she was in her late 20's. She was totally out of my league, in the looks department, but that still didn't stop me from wanting to screw her. Naturally, some one that hot had plenty of male attention. She had been divorced for about 5 years, and was then living with and in love with her dream boat guy. He was a dead ringer for Steven Segal, her favorite actor and was also a semi-pro boxer, 6 years younger than her. It took me two years to get a date with her, and then only because her live in BF got screwed up on drugs after he retired from the ring, and left town to get cleaned up. Second date, first kiss, and I fell totally in love with her. At first it seemed like a hopeless situation, as she too was jaded by her divorce from an abusive husband. And was sure that she was totally in love with her BF who she planned to reunite with once he cleaned up his life. She was sure that she could never love anyone like she did her BF. Six months later, she surprised me, when her BF came back by telling him she had found someone new. It took about another year before the "ILY's" started, but once started they have never stopped. In one week we will be starting our 19th year. 2
M30USA Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 When a woman says she was "abandoned", hold your judgement until you know the details.
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