guyinwv Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I have been with my girlfriend on and off for 2 years now. Somewhere in there she gave me our beautiful daughter. The problem is, we live an hour apart so we don't get to see each other as much as I would like. Another problem is that she is 27 and lives with her parents that still treat her like she is a teenager. They also butt in anytime we have a problem. We got engaged a few months ago, and shortly after she confesses that she is having cold feet because she still has feelings for someone else, and that she had still been talking to him.I've tried to break it off with her several times but somehow she always ends up convincing me that we should Just take a break. That always ends in us getting along for a few weeks before we get in to a huge fight, Which is usually over things that happened back when she was pregnant (we weoe broke up almost the entire pregnancy ). I Just can't figure out how to go about breaking it off and still being able to see my daughter. Also how to deal with her parents. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Beautiful diamond Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Well, you have to be in her life because you have a child with her. So forgot cutting communication. Sit her down ASAP and tell her everything you told us. Say: I feel we have grown apart and need to be separate for a while. I don't want to hurt you or our daughter, and staying and pretending would do just that. Give her time to work on herself (getting own place, resolving emotions) and you do the same. If you do this in a respectful manner, she will understand. If you be a jerk about it, she will make your life miserable. Most importantly stay in your child's life. Be a good father and respect her mother.
Author guyinwv Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 Thanks for the advice. I tried explaining to her that I don't think there is any fixing us. She responded by saying that I don't care about her or our daughter.
Mariposa10 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Thanks for the advice. I tried explaining to her that I don't think there is any fixing us. She responded by saying that I don't care about her or our daughter. How can she say that?! If she has feelings for someone else?!! WTF!!? Who's that someone else? An ex boyfriend???
Beautiful diamond Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Thanks for the advice. I tried explaining to her that I don't think there is any fixing us. She responded by saying that I don't care about her or our daughter. She is hurt. I have said that type of thing to men before. It's all manipulation. She wants you to feel sorry/guilty then go with whatever she wants. Don't fall for her games. If you don't AT MINIMUM take a break, this won't end well. Tell her its not an option. You have every right to be happy, as does she. A break is not forever, make sure you tell her you do still love her and want to be good parents together. If she gets emotional, hug her, but tell her you still need time. If she gets mean, walk away, you aren't her pet or boy toy. Don't let her manipulate you into staying!!!!!
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