ponchsox Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I called my ex yesterday and we talked for almost an hour. I asked for reconciliation and she didn't think it was a good idea. I feel so weak. Later that night I sent her more angry texts. I promised my own mom today I will no longer contact her. It's so hard to resist the temptation. It only made it worse for me. It takes experience to learn this is the only way to go.
Romaks Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 You made a mistake. Big deal. Gracefully bow out of her life, and NEVER break NC again. 1
BC1980 Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I called my ex yesterday and we talked for almost an hour. I asked for reconciliation and she didn't think it was a good idea. I feel so weak. Later that night I sent her more angry texts. I promised my own mom today I will no longer contact her. It's so hard to resist the temptation. It only made it worse for me. It takes experience to learn this is the only way to go. I do agree that it often takes experience. I broke NC and responded to so many breadcrumbs that I'm not embarrassed at my actions. However, I did learn the lesson to stop doing that sh*t. I learned it because I lived it one too many times. We always think we know better than the advice given on LS, but all of these relationships have many similarities. You learned a lesson many of us have learned. Opening up any line of communication will usually pain and drama. You usually overestimate your ability to handle contacting your ex early on. If I saw my ex today, I'm sure it would be a setback. I'm pretty strong away from him, but talking to or seeing him would probably trigger some bad emotions for me (anger, sadness, ect.). You really need NC to clear your head as hard as it may be.
Never Again Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I do agree that it often takes experience. I broke NC and responded to so many breadcrumbs that I'm not embarrassed at my actions. However, I did learn the lesson to stop doing that sh*t. I learned it because I lived it one too many times. We always think we know better than the advice given on LS, but all of these relationships have many similarities. You learned a lesson many of us have learned. Opening up any line of communication will usually pain and drama. You usually overestimate your ability to handle contacting your ex early on. If I saw my ex today, I'm sure it would be a setback. I'm pretty strong away from him, but talking to or seeing him would probably trigger some bad emotions for me (anger, sadness, ect.). You really need NC to clear your head as hard as it may be. Agreed. I responded to SO many breadcrumbs. I never asked for her back, but I got excited at just the idea of talking to her and probably seemed overeager or pathetic. I reach out to my ex to tell her I agreed with the breakup, if only because it FORCED me to accept that the relationship was over. I've done my best to stick NC even though she wants to have me her in life. I can tell you from experience, you need NC until you've moved on. In the slight chance that you can begin a new relationship with the same person, you need to have moved on from the pain you're feeling now for it to work. And if you don't get that chance? Well, you'll need to move on anyways. No matter what you want, NC and moving forward is your own choice. It sucks, but you have to.
Beautiful diamond Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Know every time you contact her you are further pushing her away while boosting her ego. She will resent you and think less of you. Best thing to do is go NC and work on self esteem. If you love her truly allow her to move on....
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