phineas Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 No brainer for me, as a guy, I always pay even if I know it's not going to be more than 1 date, meaning there is no connection. It's just the gentelmen, right thing to do. Except, when I know it's going to be a one time thing once I get there, i'll bail after the first drink. Usually because she lied about her age or her pics were not current. Why waste my time?
phineas Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I am on an OLD site now. I get 3-4 messages a day. I am even now getting ones from woman who are "available"; meaning married and looking to have fun. I will usually reply, unless there is no attraction at all after looking at their profile and pics. LOL! Got one of these now. She texts me when she's out of town for work and asks me to meet her. Haven't yet. Just trying to work her for nudes.
Shaun-Dro Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I've been doing all this reading & researching on creating a good dating relationship From what I've learned it seems its always better to wait for guys to contact you (OLD) than a girl making the first move--this helps the girl gauge his interest and intentions it seems My problem is because I'm older I'm getting very few messages from guys (especially ones I would consider as long term prospects) but I don't really want to be the pursuer so I'm just waiting My current strategy has been letting him know I visited his profile & sent one wink (on Match) =no response back. I'm on several sites to increase my chances Should I just keep waiting for a good guy to contact me (I started back online a week ago) or say hi first to someone that may be a good match for me? Also, what has been your experience initiating the contact as a female?? thanks for your help!! There's a very simple answer to this: send a message commenting on any thing you find interesting in his profile. If he likes you, he'll take it on from there. Now get on with it.
Author Ok Good Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 (edited) All the time. Are you there to meet people or have men shout how awesome your profile is you while you stand on your pedestal? I personally can care less if a woman responds because OLD is just another tool for meeting women. It isn't my life or only chance at a date. Plus, I get women messaging me. Granted all they usually say is "hi". but whatever, as long as they use more than 3 words when replying to me it's cool. Seriously, how has meeting with the guys who lay it on in the first message worked out for you? Still doing OLD? ...your slight negative edge and sarcastic tone in this post alone suggests you would not pass my screening btw guys don't have to write a novel of devotion towards me as an intro message, something that is thoughtful is all that I'm interested in. Edited October 10, 2013 by Ok Good
Babolat Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I can understand saying it's gentlemanly to pay. But the "right thing"? As in it's somehow "wrong" to split the bill? Motivate this to me. I am old fashion I guess, the guy pays, at least in the early stages of dating.
Babolat Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Except, when I know it's going to be a one time thing once I get there, i'll bail after the first drink. Usually because she lied about her age or her pics were not current. Why waste my time? Agreed, I will wrap it up quick, but always grab the check when it comes. And sometimes I'll just hang out for the conversation, learn something new, have fun with it. Like the first girl I met this go round OLD where the more she talked the more I realized she was a serial OLDer and I was having fun with it.
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