Gisss Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Has anyone been/ Is anyone in a relationship with a MM whose wife know about the affair and as she does not want to lose him does not make any problem? 1
threelaurels Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Has anyone been/ Is anyone in a relationship with a MM whose wife know about the affair and as she does not want to lose him does not make any problem? If a wife knows her husband has someone on the side and continues to be with him without demanding that he leave the other woman, that's pretty much an open relationship. That is, assuming she actually does know. Good luck getting him to leave her. A woman who is willing to keep up a permanent sharing dynamic is hard to find. Most women want exclusive relationships with their partner. 1
Daisy2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Seems smart on the W. Most A's die so if she waits it out, he comes home. Now whether she can continue to turn her head is another story, but each handles differently. But, she is smart enough to know she will be forcing his hand if she confronts, and she may not have the courage.
Ladydrib Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Has anyone been/ Is anyone in a relationship with a MM whose wife know about the affair and as she does not want to lose him does not make any problem? Close. All of the above is true but she makes a big problem. I refused to continue the affair once she found out because in my opinion that was way past when he should have left anyway but he still is waffling in between. She knows about me. Knows he wants to leave. Hopes his feelings will go away. He's told her they're not going away. Now rather than take the issues up with him she is causing me lots of trouble even though I broke it off with him. If your mm's wife is not causing problems I'd guess she's been through it several times before and knows he's not going to leave her so she's just waiting patiently for him to lose interest in you. 3
2sure Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I know of one OW here whose MM's wife knows. OW told her herself . But the BS , if you can even call her that anymore, just doesn't care about the affair. She causes some problem if her husband is taking phone calls in front of her, but nothing really. For whatever reason, she just doesn't feel that the affair is a threat to her. I know of this in real life too.
cocorico Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Has anyone been/ Is anyone in a relationship with a MM whose wife know about the affair and as she does not want to lose him does not make any problem? My then-MM told his then-W about the A but she chose not to believe him. She said no one would want him.
whereamigoing Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 (edited) But to answer OPs question for my affair the wife did not know about me and would not have just let it continue. However, when divorce time came she fought it tooth and nail even though their marriage hadn't been a marriage for years. It was important to her to keep that charade going. If there had been a choice between divorce and him continuing in a relationship with me while they stayed married I think there may have been a chance she'd have gone for that option. However, it wasn't so the point is merely theoretical. For it to truly be an open relationship all people involved must be willing and consenting, even happy for the other person finding another person to spend their time with. Just because a wife knows doesn't mean she willingly consents she's just choosing from the options available. Edited October 8, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Response to off-topic posting redacted
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