b_rouse Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Hi everyone! I've posted on here 2 years ago in the break up section about getting over my ex. After time and diligence, I was finally able to move on and I've found this really great guy! I'm 22 and I'm currently dating a 25 year old, who just got out of the military. He's now going back to school to get his bachelors. We've been dating for 4 months now, and when it came time to meet my parents (they're divorced). My dad seems to like him, but my mom thinks I can do better. Basically, my mother is a little conservative. Obviously she want what's best for me, I get that. Now a few times, my boyfriend has made sexual jokes about me, to my mom and step mom, but nothing too bad, examples being: - My mother was talking about how he's not going to spend the night, and he jokingly said something about there being too much alcohol so he'll have to spend the night. - Another time was when I was at my brother's wedding, and I was wearing a low-cut dress. I know I could have chosen a better outfit but I haven't worn the dress in a while, so I underestimated the cleavage amount. Anyways, all of my family was commenting on my cleavage amount and he basically said, "Alright everyone, let's stop commenting on my girlfriends cleavage, these are mine." Obviously, these sound horrible out of context, but I found them to be funny, because I understand his sense of humor. Now I can see how, someone who doesn't know him, would find it odd. But he's never said these things in front of my dad. The only person who seems to have a problem with it is my mom. I feel that mainly my mother is concerned because shes afraid I'm going to lose site of my career goals by dating this guy that doesn't have a bachelors and isn't academically driven. She has mentioned this before. My mother seems to focus only on the negative things about him. She fails to see that he opens the car door for me, opens doors for me, actually walks me to the porch after he drops me off, at the wedding, he always got me things that I needed if I said I forgot something, or if I wanted something else to drink. He gives me his hoodie when I feel cold. Just things a guy should do for their girlfriend. Now, their are moments where I feel he puts me on a pedestal, and I've been working on that with him, but all in all, hes a great guy! He's said some stupid things and while he may not be book smart, he definitely is street smart. I just want to know what you guys think? Or if anyone has been in a similar situation? Thank you for reading!
heartshaped Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Your mother seems overprotective and you seem a little too concerned with her opinion. My advice is to keep dating the guy. He sounds pretty wonderful. 1
crederer Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 The comments he made weren't even a little bit inappropriate. The first one was basically playfully saying he didn't want to drink and drive. The other comment was that he felt other people were being overly sexual with their comments and he was, also, playfulling trying to put an end to them. Basically, tell your mom you're interested in the guy and she needs to respect that because it's looking like he'll be around for a while so she's going to have to accept it.
FitChick Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Since he is going back to college, your mother should be proud, especially if he is getting a degree in an area that guarantees a good job, not Philosophy or Poetry.
MrCastle Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Tell your mom he wasn't "academically motivated" because he was too busy serving our country. And then proceed to ignore whatever else she says about your relationship. Listen to your heart, not to others. Parents, friends, whatever.
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